I was married for 20 years. Last 15, stayed together for kids. Feel extreemely good having made the decision. Kids are doing great. They are mostly with me. My wife (ex) was an angry person and never satisfied. She verbally abused the kids and me. We are all glad she is gone.
I don't think I will ever have the courage to get married again. I do however, like women very much. I have a few problems though. Between the kids homework, house work, and paying the bills. there isn't much time left for anything else. Also, I am not sure how someone will feel if I am upfront about my desire never to get married. Do women even consider such relationships or they just want someone to grow old with? Like to hear from men and women who are in similar situations.
2007-12-23 03:04:40 · 6 answers · asked by fijian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Live well, love much and laugh often.
Just find someone who share your same views about never getting married again and you'll be fine.
2007-12-23 03:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, you have a lot of decompressing to do. You don't say how old the kids are, but you will have a huge adjustment to make just learning how to steer your new life - and that life will change as your kids continue to get older. And hello, don't worry about the distant future now - your feelings may change, at some point, you can't say that for sure now. It would be like trying to envision being an independent person with a job and a house, when you are still riding a bike with training wheels! Just take it a day at a time. Whatever you do in dealing with another person, it does not matter as long as you are completely upfront with that person, for how you feel at the time. You WILL need to learn all about the dating world all over again - that will be traumatic enough, especially with kids involved, LOL. Yes, there will still be women interested in you - just be aware that there are also going to be plenty of weird people out there and plenty of people who aren't very upfront about things, and as long as you have kids at home, they have to be your first priority, especially given what you all went through with your ex.
2007-12-23 11:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some people out there that don't want to get "married" but want to grow old with someone.
So... it is possible. My husband's mom has been with the same guy (Skeeter) for the past 15 years and never got married. So... it can happen.
However... your lack of desire to not get married again may be due to the fact of your divorce. I would wait a while and then think about marriage again. You might change your mind.
2007-12-23 11:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Operator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. She sounded like a banshee women. Anyways their are all different type of women out there. Many do not want to get married. Their are probably a lot of women in your age range who have been through a divorce and do not see themselves marring again either. Just start dating and see where it goes.
2007-12-23 11:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only 24y/o, but, Ithink maybe you should start with chatrooms or something maybe yahoo personals? If you are up front from the beginning you should not have much B.S. to deal with ya know? And I know there are women out there who see things just as similar as you.
2007-12-23 11:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by confused<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, there are women out there who don't necessarily want to get married, but do want a 'companion' to grow old with.
2007-12-23 11:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by mdaniels1263 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋