this is another question that goes along with earlier one. my sisters husband was on the computer late last night (1am) and i gone down to watch a little tv, i was sitting on the couch with my back toward the den. he came out of the den and said to me that he was going to bed, i didn't say anything to him. he came up behind me and kissed my neck and reached down and touched my chest. from the back i look like my sister because we both have blonde hair. but i have a much much much smaller chest then my sister. when he touched me he let go real fast. earlier i asked if it could be intentional or an honest mistake. now i am asking should i tell brenda (my sister). they have been married for 12 years with 1 child and he is 35, i am 17. do i tell my sister what he did? do i let it go? i don't want to cause problems between my sister and her husband. i am having trouble dealing with my own relationship problems. i don't need this one if he meant to touch me.
2007-12-23 01:48:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
With him pulling back quickly, it indicates he thought you were Brenda. I wouldn't say anything. Just let it go. If you are still bothered by it, when you can privately ask him about it. But more than likely he was mistaking you for your sister.
2007-12-23 03:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her. It sounds like it was an honest mistake. Has he ever done anything in the past to make you question? If not, then let it go. Maybe suggest to him that *he* tell her what happened. If she knows her husband is trustworthy, then she won't make a big deal out of it.
Chalk this one up to mistaken identity and give him the benefit of the doubt. If anything like this happens again, then tell her.
2007-12-23 01:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he really meant to kiss or or if he thought that you were his wife. You might want to ask him. If he kissed you by mistake, he's probably embarrassed and won't bring it up. Whatever he tells you, you are probably best not to tell your sister. It may backfire on you. If she believes that her husband will cheat on her with you, she may try to save her marriage by excluding you from her life. If he's trying to have an affair with you, don't always expect your sister to be rational. If it was a mistake on his part, why do you want to put your sister and b-i-l, through that greif and doubt?
2007-12-23 03:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he took his hands away quickly so maybe he is not doing it on purpose.I also think it's best to keep it between you two.But if your sister is a person who is understanding then maybe you can tell her and laugh bout it.She's your sister.You should know how would she react to these kind of things.
2007-12-23 02:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by andy13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was probabbly just an honest mistake by him, espiecally if he pulled back really fast. if it happens again, THEN i would tell your sister. I dont think that he meant to touch you tho.
2007-12-23 02:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by bwaylvr99(loves her soccer team) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. It does seem to be an honest mistake and if he let go quickly then he knew it wasnt your sister. He is probably really embarresed. Just let it go and everything will go fine. =]
2007-12-23 04:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by believe.dance.inspire ; 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell her as you said that when he touched you he realized that it wasnt your sister and pulled away fast. It was a mistake.
2007-12-23 02:54:07 · answer #7 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was an honest mistake and he took his hands away immediately. Its best to keep it quiet.
2007-12-23 01:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as wk him in front of her.if it was a mistake then let it go if not then have her talk to him.if he dose it again report it to the police.
2007-12-23 01:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it and just act normal
2007-12-23 03:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by Alegria B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋