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I don't know why i am with his mum and dad but i was today.They came to see are daughter in the church nativity and brought my sister in laws kids.They came to are house and i so nervous.I don't get on with his sister much as she has been nasty in the past and not nice when i lost two pregnancys early this year(i'm 17 weeks now!!).How do i over come this for christmas day dinner.This is not a new thing i have been with my hubby nearly 8 yrs now.Thanks x

2007-12-23 01:24:52 · 9 answers · asked by noot 3 in Family & Relationships Family

9 answers

Why do you feel it is something that you have to do to get over it? Let them figure out how they are going to behave when they see you.

It is your child and your feelings - you get to call it when some does you wrong.

Its been long enough, if they say something nasty to you, you defend yourself. You dont have to put up with no one disrespecting you. Just laugh in her face and walk away from her and be glad that you are not like her!!!

2007-12-23 02:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 1 0

You are not alone. My best advice is to move far away from the inlaws so that you don't have to see them often. If you are in too close proximity, they will interfere and your marriage and comfort level will be compromised. Sounds like these people have an ax to grind and unfortunately you are the target.

On the the flip side of the coin, you can become the alpha female in the family. Kill them with kindness but if they over step their bounds, you can always roar like a lion and put a little fear into them.

Your problem is more common than not. Stay strong, be vigilant and protect your territory all with a smile on your face and an open heart. No one said life was easy. Above all, love your kids and protect them, you are their mother and they need you. Try to have a Merry Christmas and come out fighting for the new year.

2007-12-23 01:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by metallic moment 5 · 2 0

Just relax and be yourself,you have nothing to prove,they either like you or they don't,and if they don't, it's their problem,not yours.

Concentrate on your daughter and husband and just be polite to his family,that's all you can do.
If they act out of line,especially in front of your husband,then it's your husbands responsibility to step in and defend you by putting them in their place.

Have a nice day and try not to worry so much,I'm sure all will be fine in the end.

2007-12-23 01:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 1 0

Just smile and know that you only have to be with them for a short time. Try meditating or deep breathing before you meet with them.

2007-12-23 01:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1 0

You need to take it easy and take care of that baby in your belly. Don't let the stress of the Holiday's bring you down.

2007-12-23 02:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

normal...try to tune them out and just smile it confuses the shitt out of them...

2007-12-23 01:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

smile and act natril and if you have a problem tell your husband!!!

2007-12-23 01:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Yes i think its natrule

2007-12-23 01:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

quite natural

2007-12-23 02:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by rock 2 · 0 1

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