Well i met this girl at work weve known each other for about 1 month now, weve gone out to see a movie and eat out a restaurant, and also plan to go to the zoo soon. We started talking one night and flirting 4 a while by then and then she asks me if i love her, i said yes and when i asked her she said yes too. But she says shes got a bf (only bin goin out for about 3 wks) she said she does love me bt im like her best mate bt she doesnt want to lead me on...bt then she says that we neva kno wat myt happen in the future. Then i askd her if i kuld kno whether or nt i can move on and she said she thinks i should "just in case you kno" is what she said. then says that she hopes dis doesnt change anything between us. I told her then that i def wanna remain best friends for now mayb more in future. She said shed like that bt told me nt to hold my breath in a funny way haha then she goes i dont wanna hurt you. My main question is shuld i wait it out or take action. i will answer any questions.
2007-12-23 01:02:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 17 shes 16. She knows how i feel about her and i had recent family problems which she was immediately there to support me. She even offered to let me stay overnight at her house coz my dad kicked me out. She said she doesnt kno how she is goin with her b/f. Thanx a A LOT for the answers so far guys appreciate it a lot.
2007-12-23 01:31:21 · update #1
Plz help me ppl! i wanna really know what others think bout this situation!
2007-12-23 01:50:13 · update #2
Don't wait it out. Don't
take action either. You can remain attracted to her and enjoy it. Allow yourself an interest in other women.
You have to know how to enjoy the situation as it is right now if you want these kinds of things happening nice, or you just get your kicks. That's just a matter of who you think you are. What kind of person are/and going to be.
She seems to be she's being respectful. Why not be respectful too? In my experience people don't completely "move on" anyway. Not when someone's good to you (and self-respecting) good to you in one way or another.
The thing to understand here, and watch out for, is that men flirt with and have infidelity with other women because they are.. well, let's just say 'animals', about such things. But when women go astray it is more usually because of how they feel about the guy they are already with, not because they are immature with their desires toward others.
What you describe sounds like she's being honest. It's nice. Enjoy the whole situation. Be yourself. She sounds like she's taking what she has with this current guy seriously for now. It sounds terrible of course, i guess, but there's really no harm in trying to find a way to respect what she has with this other guy. You don't just want her, you want things to go well for her. She's attracted to you. Take that. She can't take it back now. But you can use her interest in you to show what it can be like to have two men respect her, rather than maybe none.
Otherwise, go for it.
Just tag that.
2007-12-27 04:27:14 · answer #1 · answered by roostershine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first, how old are the two of you? Love takes time, how can you both love each other by only going out on a few dates? You work together, do you have long chats about each others lives? You have known each other 1 month, she has been 'dating' this new guy for 3 weeks, she doesn't love you, she is telling you she loves you because it is what you want to hear. Don't hold your breath and if you really love her, don't remain friends. If you take action you will lose her as a friend, I can almost say that with confidence. If you want to remain friends just be there for her and find another girl or find a woman, better yet.
2007-12-23 09:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you and why can't you spell?? Maybe she does not take you seriously and seeing you as her best mate means she "loves" hanging out and joking around...but she does not see you in a romantic way at all. So either you enjoy being around her and you 2 can just be friends or if you like her too much than tell her you like her as more than just a friend and see what she says. She'll probably say that she doesn't see you in the same way. Then you can decide if you still want to hang around her.
2007-12-23 09:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by rebwise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take my advice since I'm a woman. I went through a stage of stringing guys along because I was "in love" with the fact of someone loving me. I didn't ever really love someone even if I said it. Love to me was like a fairytale, it's fun to pretend but it's not reality. The thought of someone liking me that much was exciting. It is mean I know but I'm being honest. I didn't fall in love until I met the man I was going to marry.
I wouldn't wait for her. She is double dipping, getting two guys to take her out and she doesn't have to be committed. If you choose to remain good friends make sure you go dutch on your friendly outtings once in awhile so you don't always have to pay.
2007-12-23 09:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Marketing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that this girl probably does like you but does not want to date you right now. It seems as if she just likes the idea of you wanting to be with her so she keeps leading you on. This may not be intentional of course. I think that if you want to.. Maybe date another girl... to let this girl know that you are not going to wait forever. Otherwise you may just end up being the guy she hangs out with whenever she needs a bit of a confidence boost. Which is not fair to you at all.
2007-12-23 09:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by litl_spacey_chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that she is doing time pass with you. She cant be your loyal & faithful partner. After telling u that she love u . She still in confusion whether to leave x boy friend or not. It means she is 100% not interested in you. She is playing with ur emotion .You should take action.
2007-12-23 09:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by swamisudha5995 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay champ!!
firstly!!
answer this question for me
"do you LOVE her"
if you do then pursue her
wait it out... dont let it get to you
she could be your girl man
and if she said she loves you too
and if she means it...she really shouldnt be with
her boyfriend...its not fair on him.
so tell her ur feelings..
and yeah dont move on k
if she loves u it means she could move on from her bf
and who do u think would be next in line??
thats where u come in...
treat her right..be nice.. do things for her
and she will like u a hell of alot
coz chicks love that..!!!
tell me how u go and ill answer any of your questions k champ
dan
2007-12-23 09:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by [dan] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is messing with your head.
That's clearly all she's doing playing games.
Don't wait for her, live your own life just like she's doing without you. (with her bf)
And tell her to stop saying stuff like that to you to lead you on, and then to say i have a bf i don't want to hurt you.
Don't listen to her bullshit and her game playing please.
2007-12-23 09:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am trying to look out for you. i do not mean to hurt your
feelings for the world, but she sounds like a fraud. i would
reccomend dropping her.
2007-12-23 09:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for right now move on. And if her and the boyfriend break up and you still havent found anyone else, then i say try it out w/ her.
2007-12-23 09:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by beau kay<3 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋