My step mum has just been in hospital to have a hysterectomy, and they found that she has got ovarian cancer that has spread to her cervix.
I have heard all of this info from my sister, as i had a falling out with her over 3 years ago, and we have not spoken since.
i would really like to send a little card to her, to let her know that i am thinking of her..but i'm worried that she will think i am being a hypocrite.
should i send her a little card or not?
2007-12-23 00:56:00 · 20 answers · asked by ? 6 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
JB- i was thinking of a blank card..and just writing something like 'dear ....... sorry to hear you are not well, just to let you know that i am thinking of you'..is that ok??
2007-12-23 01:05:28 · update #1
Send the card - this might be the start of mending fences. Do not send a "get well" one because she might not get well. Send one, "thinking of you" and then put a note inside that you are hoping she is feeling better - something like that. If you don't send it and something bad eventually happens, you will regret it later.
2007-12-23 00:59:41 · answer #1 · answered by J B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deeds, not words.
Been in the hospital laying there myself - alone for long parts of the day. Cards dont mean a da** thing.
I had people turn up just to say hello I hadn't seen for years. I still remember this 11 years on.
This is serious stuff. You may not get another chance....think about this. How long will you think "I wish I had.....". I hear that every day - waste of breath.
Go to the hospital right now and ask to see her. Go into the room and hold her hand and SMILE, there is no need for cards or words. You might be very surprised at how the past is just that.
2007-12-23 04:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and send the card, Claire. The spiritual healing for you both has to start somewhere, and sometimes it begins just like this.
I just read an article in this month's Reader's Digest in which Steve Martin talked about how he and his dad didn't get along- Until his dad fell ill for the last time. Then they found they had a lot of love to share.
I wish all the best for you and your step-mom.
2007-12-23 01:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to go visit her. Your presence will be enough to dissuade any thoughts of your being a hypocrite. This means that you cared enough to come see her. You don't have to talk about the past. Just say you came to see how she is. Bring her something like flowers or a cake if you wish.
The most that you could do is be there. It doesn't matter what anyone might think. All that matters is that you cared enough to show up. Whatever conclusions others may derive from your visit, it's their problem not yours.
2007-12-23 01:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by reg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just reach out, you obviously want to extend some support. What is the worst that could happen? So, if she doesn't talk to you oh well, at least you tried. But you will never know unless you do. You would be surprised at how she may have been needing to talk with you as well. She will need all the support she can get. Do not bring up the past, just move forward, it will do no good for you or her health to dwell. Good luck
2007-12-23 01:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by nurse ratchet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately send a card or a note. We never know how long we will have the people in our lives. You might regret not sending something.
2007-12-23 02:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how would you feel if you were ill and she sent a card? how would you feel if the worst happened and you had not made ammends. some one has to make the first move if you want to heal the rift. if you genuinely care then send a card, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain as you will either be ok or will continue not to speak
2007-12-23 01:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it will make you feel better then certainly you should send a card, you can say something along the lines of
even though we don't keep in touch
i am thinking of you and hoping the best
i will keep you in my prayers.
whether you go visit her or not is something you have to decide for yourself. i don't know what the trouble was between you, but if there is a chance she may be leaving this earth you might want to do the 'forgive and forget' routine. whatever you choose to do, do it because you want to, not because we tell you to, or your family tells you to, but because it is what want to do.
good luck sweetie.
2007-12-23 06:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see her ....nothing else matters now. Go and say you are sorry and you love her. Dont have any regrets,dont send a card that might be seen as cold unless you give it in person.
2007-12-23 01:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it > With love and Sincerity
All The Bestest To both of you
2007-12-23 01:02:52 · answer #10 · answered by seemorebetter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋