surname when you got married?
2007-12-23 00:38:17 · 29 answers · asked by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Quarter Midget Mom - lol, what were the rhyming names?
2007-12-23 00:44:00 · update #1
No, I didn't and I don't plan to. I *might* add it on the end as it makes things easier here in the U.S. sometimes. Sometimes I do use it when I sign up for things online or for mail and stuff.
2007-12-23 00:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally i have always grown up with the idea that when people get married the bride takes the surname of her partner. When my fiance proposed i thought almost straight away i get to change my name to be part of his family! So i would have no trouble changing if it was just me.
Now that i am grown and getting married myself it's a different issue. I had a daughter 5 years ago with a man who abused me and left before i even discovered i was pregnant and she also holds my maiden name. (her father still sees her from time to time but that's another issue)
If it was just my fiance and I, my name would change. But as my daughter is still quite young we don't feel entirely comfortable changing my surname without changing hers too. So instead my fiance is planning to take my name because he is marrying a family not just a person. It's also nice because my sister and i are the last to carry our family name (no boys anywhere in the family for the past 30 years) whilst he is the second son of three boys with many male cousins.
When we have children of our own in the future they will have the same surname as my daughter does now. We will be one family without the distinction between the children as to who has what name and i think that's really nice
2007-12-23 17:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I did - after LOTS of thinking... I was 28 when we got married, had two degrees, a great career, a good family name -- but we thought ahead to children we wanted, and that there should be ONE family surname. My husband did offer to take my maiden name, but in the end I decided to take his surname.
I like the idea how lots of women now are using their maiden name as their middle name.
2007-12-24 03:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married and this is a tough one for me because I am the only child and both my parents are deceased so I am the last to carry my family name. I am leaning towards taking my husband's name but keeping my maiden name for work and maybe using it as my middle name, but I like my middle name too. I may just use all four names, nothing wrong with that. Do what you feel comfortable with.
2007-12-23 14:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did, I couldn't wait to take on his name!!! But I will say the whole changing name process is intense - there are so many places you have to go to change it, and a year later I was still changing it everywhere I went.
I can tell you no matter what happens, this is the last name I'm keeping for the rest of my life. Would never go through the name changing process again!
2007-12-23 13:10:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in 6 months and will definitely be changing my name. It's a personal preference, and I've decided to take my fiance's name when we get married because a lot of emotional stress is behind my last name. Not only that, I feel it being a tie between me and my future husband.
2007-12-23 01:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by tinker_jew 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i get married i most definitly will. i like the tradition. but i will admit, its not for everyone. if the lady is not comfortable with that, well she should keep her own name then. before marriage the 2 should probably discuss it first, it can be an emotional thing for some people. i could see a man and his family being a little hurt if she refused to change her name. so thats why i think it should be discussed before so everyone knows what to expect.
2007-12-23 01:35:10 · answer #7 · answered by superval13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I did... though I joked with my friends that I now have a stripper name (just a joke because both my first name and last name start with the same letter now). I loved the idea of taking his name though... it's tradition, and our children will have his last name so why shouldn't I? The only down side is my husband's last name is hard to pronounce... my family is still trying to get it right :)
2007-12-23 06:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I can't decide on a surname. We both don't like our current names and want to get rid of them. He wants to take my name, but I don't want to keep my name. I don't want to take his name, either. We're looking into resurrecting a family name...or just combining letters of our current names.
Anyway, we're trying to figure it all out, but it's a big decision. I can't believe how automatically some people make the choice without thinking.
2007-12-23 03:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have done for everything except my email address at work, I work for a small company and everyone knows I am married, I wear my ring, so I didn't bother changing the email address as it's a lot of hassle.
2007-12-27 23:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will. IMO, a wedding creates a new family, and a family has one name, not each member with their own last names. The only way I wouldn't take his name is if it were really awful. My fiance told me it was totally my call, but for me there was absolutely no question about it.
2007-12-23 04:40:06 · answer #11 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋