i know christmas is a stressful time of year but isnt it the same for everyone? i recently did my christmas food shop but i had my kids with me (its something you have to do if you have no babysitters unfortunately!) anyway i had my toddlers in the double buggy which my nine year old son pushed whilst i pushed the trolly and did the shopping. the amount of people that pushed my son out of the way and banged into him was unbelievable and not one person said excuse me. i even ended up having a full blown arguement with some stupid man who had my son in tears as he literally rammed the trolly into the back of his legs and told him to move out of the f**cking way. i immediately went over and had a go at this man who told me i shouldnt bring the kids shopping with me. after i eventually made him apologise i ended up dumping my shopping and going home. my question is why are some people so horrible. i know its hard and stressful for them but do they think its easy for me? whats their problem
2007-12-22 22:53:18 · 28 answers · asked by gemma r 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
ps, for those who said i set a bad example for my kids what should i have done? should i have turned to my son and said "its ok son if that stupid man hurt you, but i will just allow that and so should you".
2007-12-23 04:08:47 · update #1
first of all i dont think you were setting a bad example for your son at all, if anything you were setting a good example by showing him you have to stand up to bullies which is what that man is, a bully. where does he get off pushing and swearing at a nine year old boy? as for telling you you shouldnt bring your kids shopping, what else are you supposed to do with them? leave them at home on their own!? i dont think so! there is no rule that says you cant bring kids shopping in a supermarket and its not as if any of your kids were screaming or causing trouble. i know xmas is stressfull but you just have to deal with it and not take it out on little kids like that man and the other people who pushed past him did.
i dont know where you live but i love in london and everyone here is so misserable and self absorbed. im currently 8months pregnant(and look it) and im not saying i deserve special treatment beacuse of it but people just push past me and shove right into me on busses etc(making the hand rail on the bus go right into my belly and its quite painful sometimes) it makes me fear for my unborn child, i mean it icy outside and what if someone knocked me over and i fell? if i fell hard id have to go to hospital and may have to have my baby early but no-one seems to care. i dont know what the world is coming to, manners and human compassion dont cost anything.
merry xmas
2007-12-23 06:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gemma,
sounds like you have had a bit of a day so far to say the least. Take a deep breath and start again. These ignorant people have already ruined your morning dont let them spoil your whole day.
If your son has seen the whole argument unfold let him know that he his a good boy and none of it was is fault.
It doesnt need to be the holidays for people to be rude some folk think they have the god given right to be purely ignorant.
We both know that no one has that right.
It may not be ideal but a lot of super markets are open late and it is usually quiter (ignorant people must go to bed early lol) your children will love the excitement of a late night shopping rather than being in bed. You wont have to stress about the children being in another shoppers way. As a one off for the children it would be more of a treat than a chore.
Have a merry Christmas xx
2007-12-23 07:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by nuttyred x 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like that.
The best thing that you can do is let it go. Obviously you're not like that and you'd apologise but there are some people who aren't as considerate and you can't change them. I think it was quite good that you got him to apologise; damn right he should have! Fancy ramming your trolly into a little kid?!
So you were right to complain there but just try and forget about it for now. Those people have the misfortune of letting Christmas become a problem rather than a pleasurable treat, where as you have the insight not to let any of this get to you and to see it for what it is and enjoy it! It's not your fault you've got kids! If it's practical to take them with you then take them with you!
They've ultimately got to deal with their problems, so enjoy your kids and enjoy your holiday. Enjoy it with those who will enjoy it with you and let all of those other people enjoy tearing their hair out :)
Merry Christmas :)
2007-12-23 07:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bobella :D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its completely awful the way the world is today. people have no dignity. i actually feel sorry for those rude people because if they are that miserable, imagine how their Christmas must be. Ignore them sweetheart. Unfortunately, we have some of the same problems here on Yahoo Answers. People being rude, slamming your answers and questions, impersonating you, it's an endless list. Nicer people cannot get rid of people like the man in the grocery store. Because they will never go away. What we can do,however, is report, report, report! And spread a little love. Who knows? Maybe something will come out of it! Merry Christmas!
2007-12-23 09:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this is very much a regional issue. My husband and I have lived all over the nation from coast to coast---and every where in between. I'd take a gamble and guess you are in a state near one of the oceans---moderatly large to major sized city.
It's not just Christmas, it's just the way a lot of really truly angry people choose to live thier lives. Rush, rush, rush. Nothing matters but me, me, me. I was born and raised in a major city near one of the oceans and I totally thought it was normal behavior and then I met my husband and we moved. People are not like that everywhere---not are they like that all the time.
I was kind of shocked. Let me tell you I am a much happier person for getting away from the crazies.
You did not set a bad example for your children. You had every right to defend your child. This was a valuable learning experience for your children--talk to them about it. "This is how we DON'T treat people." You can turn this into a positive learning experience. Take a second, you can even appologise for those people---tell your kids that you are sorry they had to see that and hear that poor language and remind them to pray for sad people like that.
Don't be so hard on yourself. I feel for you---
2007-12-23 15:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are like that, I've seen a few fights break out over shopping etc over the years.
most people will leave their kids at home with someone out of the way to be honest. lot less stress that way..
funniest argument I saw was some vicar had a big row with another shopper about his turkey being taken from his trolley.
and they hadn't.. was funny to watch , but still not really christian is it..
best way is to avoid all the last minute people who think they pile into the supermarkets.. and do most of the shopping before hand, except the few items that you do need fresh a few days before.
2007-12-23 07:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by junglejungle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is awful. Unfortunately I think it is the way things are going now, a lot of people are just too self-obsessed to care about anyone else. Just as long as they get what they want for Christmas before anyone else, nothing matters. Manners are also flying out the windows. It is a sad state of affairs.
2007-12-23 07:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by puffin57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do exactly the same as you. Bless your 9 year old son helping you out. I was queueing, like we brits always seem to do, and I could hear people in the queue continually moaning, "haven't they got anymore tills open", "this is unacceptable blah blah blah". My god, it doesn't matter that it's Christmas, why go to places when they know it's going to be busy. They should have night time shopping for moaning Minnie's. BAH HUMBUG to them! You have a lovely Christmas.
2007-12-23 07:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by chutney 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Too many 4rseholes nowadays. The other day at work my colleague and I were controlling traffic for a charity carol concert and the cars were slowing down so as to find out where they needed to go and park but some impatient W4NKER decided to rush through nearly nocking me over because he was going somewhere else and the abuse I got was sh1t!
2007-12-23 07:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by j.pee69 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, well done you on staying calmish, id have knocked his lights out if he did that to one of mine.
I have to face the supermarket tomorrow, but I'm only taking my 2yr old as me other daughters hate food shopping as i limit what they can have (would be all sweets and sugary stuff)
This man has no excuse for ramming and swearing at your son. i personally think us mums have the most stress at this time of year, men have it easy
dint let this jerk ruin your Christmas
2007-12-23 08:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋