Is something wrong with me????

Question

Well I am a first time mom. My baby will be 2 months old tomorrow. Sometimes I just feel like I don't want anything to do with the baby. This is very rare that I feel like this but I do. Does that make me a bad person? It's not that I don't love him cause I do more than anything in the world. Somebody please give me some clarity.

Thanks everybody for your input. The thought of hurting him never crosses my mind.

Answer 1

You probably just don't have enough time for yourself. As long as you know that you logically love your baby and would never do anything to hurt them, it's okay. It's normal to feel overwhelmed every now and then. If possible, try to get help from a family member once a week, if only for an hour or two of you time.

Answer 2

Why does everybody throw the Post partum depression at any new mother that isn't cheery sunshine 24/7?! Seriously....
I think , like others too, that is normal. You are with your baby 24/7. Even if your baby is the most placid and content little fellow it is a permanent responsability. You always have one eye on the little one and need to be always alert. That is not big stress but consistent stress. So it is normal to get tired and to want some time where you don't have 100% responsability. I really love my daughter and she is the most cheerful and easy going baby I have met but once a week I need 2-3 hours when she she is totally dad's responsability and I can relax, have a nap, read a book or whatever while knowing that she is 100% taken care of and safe and secure.
And after that break I can start refreshed and with new energy.
So, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. Get someone you trust 100% to do some babysitting for a couple of hours and do something for yourself in that time , like a nice relaxing bath, or a few pages of that novel that you wanted to start to read for weeks - you don't even have to leave your house for that

Answer 3

Lady Bug is right. This is a totally normal feeling. You are likely overwhelmed with the responsibilities of a brand new baby. Try and get some family or friends to help you. If you do find yourself ignoring the needs of the baby, or perhaps thinking that you are going to hurt him, then you should seek a counselor or talk to your doctor. You may be experiencing post partum depression, which occurs more often than people think, is often short term, and can be helped with counseling and/or medication.

Good luck. You will do fine.... Congratulations on your new baby. It gets better, I promise. :-)

Answer 4

It's totally normal. I find the whole concept that mom's are always madly in love with their kids implausible. Some will sell you that idea, but I don't buy it.
I have a 5 yr old. I love him madly, but there have been plenty of times i've thought 'enough already!!!' I used to think it was because I was a bad mom or something, but the more mothers I meet, the more I realize it's more natural than we think.

Answer 5

After you have a child 1,2, or any amount you have a chance of having post partum depression, it is very common. It happens to alot of women who don't have much to do with there children. No it doesn't make you a bad person but you need to go to your doctor and tell them because it could get worse. Your hormones are still out of wack.

Answer 6

It does not make you a bad person. You are probably overwhelmed and aren't receiving enough help with the baby. What you are going through is very common and your doctor can help you out if you feel that it is something that is getting serious.

Answer 7

I've read that sometimes it's normal for a mother to feel a little distant at times from her baby. I think this is okay as long as it's just a healthy "hey, I wanna break from you for a while," or "I really just don't want to be around you right now" because face it I think EVERY mother or father feels this way at times. Dont be too hard on yourself, its common.

Answer 8

This is normal... it's called postpartnum depression. There is nothing wrong with you! You are just getting used to your new baby and it does get hard.. Talk to your doctor if you start doing crazy things, like having thoughts of killing your baby or hurting him. You'll be fine!
Good luck!

Answer 9

You need some help with him. There are no instructions to how to raise a baby and to learn how can be frustrating at times especially if you're doing it alone. I'm sure all parents at one time or another wish they could walk away, that they're not ready for parenthood. Some do walk away and never come back. But there are some of us that overcome that feeling and stick it out. After years of sticking it out, we finally get to enjoy the benefits of parenthood through the precious moments of: seeing the child sitting alone for the first time, seeing the child take his/her first steps, the laughs of pottytraining, and God only knows what their first words will be, the Head Start years, pre-K year, Kindergarden graduation, 1st through 7th grade, the graduation, the 12th grade graduation. the college graduation, the marriage, and finally the one thing really worth sticking it out for...GRANDCHILDREN! If you walk away now while the child is a baby, look at all the memories you will miss out on. As a greatful mother of 11 children, grand mother of 4 grandchildren, and God mother of 5, I say to you with the authority that's given to me through the power of positive parenting;
NOW PULL YOURSELF TOGETHER, DEVISE A PLAN FOR YOUR CHILD'S FUTURE AND WORK AS HARD AS YOU CAN TO GET IT DONE. RIGHT NOW YOU'RE A SOLDIER IN THE ARMY OF PARENTHOOD. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SURRENDER. ONLY ENDURANCE. WEATHER YOU'RE A TEAM OR YOU'RE GOING AT IT ALL ALONE. YOU CAN DO IT....YOU CAN DO IT...Why? BECAUSE THE CHILD NEEDS YOU!

Answer 10

It does not make you a bad person. You are adjusting and tired and you hormones are probably not back to normal yet either. Do you have post par tum depression? I don't know how you check but if it gets worse I would talk to your doctor about it.