I am thinking joining the army has human resource single parent?

Question

single father my son is 4 and i am 25 no living relatives if something happens to me my son will either go to the state
or God knows but i need to do something with our lives joining
the reserve but has i am told would propably be deployed

Answer 1

Thank you for your service to our country specially during tough times for all of us.

OIF 2003
US Army 15 years

Answer 2

First off you would ahve to give custody of your son over to a trusted relative during basic and AIT, if you go reserves. If you go active you will have to wait for housing before you can then retreave your son from the person. I am not sure if they take single parents, that is why you give custody over to another person during the time you are gone and act as if you are not single. At basic or AIT (your MOS or Job training) they will have you fill out a Family Care plan, that will tell the Army who will take care of your child while you are deployed (probably the same person who took the child during your Basic and AIT). If you have no one your son can go to, you can't join, no friends or family, then forget it, if the state gets your kids, chances are you may never see him again.

Answer 3

Single parents and dual military couples have special requirements to meet when it comes to children. There has to be a plan in place for the child in case the single parent is deployed or if both military parents deploy. I recommend the air force as the first choice of branch, usually their deploymemts are shorter duration. However, less the 50% of the army has been deployed to hostile areas. That may be deceiving as some units are on their third or fourth rotations now. However, there is a large portion of the army as individuals that have been lucky and been stationed in certain locations and avoided deployments. The army is trying to correct that problem now and make it a prioroty to send these soldiers to forward areas now.

So, if you want to avoid a deployment, it will be tricky, your speciality will come into play, type of unit, time on station and so forth. Best thing to do, set yourself up for a good job or speciality, maybe air force admin type. However, in the end, as a single parent, you will be required to have some sort of official paperwork and plan set aside for deployment and who will be responsible to care for your child. Visit a recruiter and get more details.

Answer 4

Joining either the Resrves or active duty would require to have a plan written and apporoved that says who would take care of your son in case you were deployed. The military is very strict about that and it is common to all brances and I believe even the National Guard does the same thing. All the talk abou "if you jin and something happens" is something to consider but the fact of life is that you could have a car accident tomorrow and be ripples for life or killed also. You need to figure out what would happen with your son in that event any way it goes whether in service or not. Look at friends you have, married couples you trust and talk to them about it. Find some one you and your son knows and see if they would be willing to accept guardianship if something happend to you. My wife and I had that settled and written up when we had a younger daughter because it would be possible for both of us to get killed; after I retired and moved home we changed it to my brother as my mother was getting older but we had one of those until she turned 18. So you need to fnd some one that you trust for that whether you go in service or not. Yo can then look at going into the military if you want too-I would recommend the Air Force because they would deploy the least and have more (percent wise) accompanied tours overseas then the other services. The Navy, Marines and Army all deploy more frequently for training, operations or cruises and the number of accompanied tour billets is more limitted. I would recommend that you go active if you do decide to go into the military rather then Reserves so you can get a little more out of it and have the time availble to decide what you want to do with your life. Good luck regardless of your decision but get that guardianship in case of taken care of for your son's sake and your peace of mind.

Answer 5

Since you have no one to take your son for the duration of your basic training and tech school or to have take him if you are deployed or stationed at a place where he is not allowed to go (and these options could last as long as 18 months) is is unlikely the military will accept you. You would have to give legal custody to someone while you are training and then have someone to list on your family care plan. Since you do not have that option now, the military is not going to risk your death and having your child turned over to the state.

Answer 6

Well, you will have to have a PLAN, I mean it's actually required by the Army, for what will happen to the kid if you get deployed. Lock in a good friend perhaps, but why waste time with the reserves? If you want to do something with your lives, go for it, go active duty. You're not going to gain much just messing around in the reserves.

Answer 7

it is true that you would probly be deployed if you join the army.. instead of joining the reserves mate how about joining the airforce or even the coast guard... both have great benifits and if will give you son a chance to go with you and grow up in many different places.

Answer 8

Reserves is your only option, and you MUST have a solid family Care plan in effect: someone who you designate to watch the child on short notice, as well as for extended periods. who would take care of him while you are in basic training and AIT?

and you can absolutely expect to be deployed at some point.

Answer 9

YES... you will be deployed as soon as you finish basic and I think you need to get a more realistic goal... at least you realize that your son will go to the State if you get killed... but, how will you care for him if you come home without any legs or in a wheel chair?

Answer 10

find someone you trust to be over your child and get it legal to where if something does happen he want be in the states care that would suck as for going to join many Americans to do the service thing I applaud that I have came from a military family many many of us have served nothing wrong with that take care of the child caregiver first before you enlist.