It never occured to me until one day at my doctors office. I have BPD, so I talk well with my doctor, he asked "How did you lose weight? Did you find love?".I replied "No, infact we broke it off." I cried a little and explained why I ended it.He replied "He sounds Narcisstic/Sociapathic to me, with you condition stay FAR away from him".
It jumped me. So i researched it. Few things hit it on the nose. Majority are "fatherless" and have a parent that acts the same or not worse. Constantly lieing. Lack of remorse or empathy. History of school violence or very checkered past. Also very charming and social.
All my friends and his friends tell me he's "off" or kept him around for his "stories". He's very sweet and loving until you "catch" him in an obvious lie,or point out that he has made me upset. Then its almost he does a complete change. He's hostile. Angry. Low and careless. Doesn't care or want me. Blames others.
How can I GET AWAY? We have the same friends. work same area..Scared.
2007-12-21 22:29:50 · 7 answers · asked by rainbowsandhell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A guy like that is nothin but trouble. That badboy side may be what kind of draws you to him, but in the long run, you'll only cause yourself pain. Listen to your head - your heart's in the wrong place.
A relationship can never work with those guys because they can NEVER be wrong. They get angry as hell when you call them on a lie or confront them about their selfish ways because they either can't accept that they need to apologize or they refuse to change so they don't acknowledge their problems so you can't possibly resolve anything with them.
You can find sooo much better.
Remember he's a sociopath, so the best thing to do first ISN'T to come out straightforwardly telling him to stay the **** away from you. You guys already broke up right? So just keep your distance, and if you ever run into him and he asks to hang out, just tell him you're busy or you've got plans with an old friend, you need to visit your grandma, etc. Anything that sounds real. Eventually, he'll loosen up and stop trying. If he refuses to, andget a restraining ord er, don't tell him you did (if that's possible?) He'll only get pissed. Remember hes a sociopath - laws don't really matter to him.
As long as you safely keep your distance, you should be okay. If you ever do have to cross paths with him, make sure you're not alone - bring those mutual friends out, because they'll keep him in check.
Be safe and happy holidays! There's plenty of better guys out there, so start the new year off with a new (and better) guy!
2007-12-21 23:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by :+:cobra:+: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate people like that. One of my last girlfriends was 20 years old was really sweet and kind, played sports and is in college. But I soon found out that in high school she had no friends, even though she played sports she was always an outcast on the team, and hadn't socially developed past 9th grade. She became obsessed with me and when we broke up she would constantly stalk me at work, leave creepy messages on my myspace page, and was just incredibly awkward and scary. Since your female you could probably get restraining order, especially if your doctor recommends he stay away from you. But ya I sympathize with you, some people are just missing that part of their brain that suppose to say " what your doing isn't normal"
2007-12-21 22:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off who is the doctor to tell you what to do !!!Then again who am I giving you advice!!!!It's noone's choice but your's to do what you think is right..If you don't love him and your tired of his way's tell him your thru!!!!If he can't accept that it's time to call in big brother's or someone who can kick his ***!!!!!Some people can't take no for a answer sometime's !!!!Change is thier if you really want it !!!!Do your self a favor don't wish jail or prison on your worst enemy !!!!Neither help's any situation!!!Life is what you want it to be.And how and where you want it to be!!!!!And most of all who you want to be with!!!!!Take care and life will get better .
2007-12-21 22:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it in small doses. if you make a break all at once that
might upset him. see and talk less to him until it eventually
reaches a zero point. also, you may want to explain the
problem to the police and without his knowledge both
talk to the police and make a police report. the police
may also offer some advice.
be carefull with this person, stay safe and good luck.
2007-12-21 22:39:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Transfer jobs and get as far away as possible. You don't need that headcase hurting you physically or emotionally. Your better than that. Listen to your head, out hearts make stupid decisions.
2007-12-21 22:49:23 · answer #5 · answered by sweetrhymez21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i suggest that you just try your best to aviod him and is there any way you can ask your Doctor to alert the local authorities about this individual
2007-12-21 22:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dane G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you really don't need that kind of a negative influence in your life.
2007-12-21 22:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋