My friend nicole is kinda a big girl and she bought this bikini which she plans on wearing when summer comes but when she tried it on everything was hanging out! Not good! She had stretch marks and cottage cheese thighs showing everywhere! She is the type that is in denile about her body having any type of scars on it. How do I get this chick to understand that bikinis were not made for everyone to wear?
2007-12-21 20:50:48 · 21 answers · asked by ????????? 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Tell her I said NNNNNOOOO! POINT OUT OTHER PEOPLE IN MAGS THAT LOOK LIKE SHE WOULD. SHE JUST NEEDS THE VISUAL.
2007-12-22 15:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Miz Peaches 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So this is what you do. You guys should both get in bikinis and take pictures ( not dirty ones you old guys) looking cute and posing. Then when sees them it can be her reality check. I did that to a friend who was wearing the worst dress ever for her body and when she saw the pictures she was like "honestly how do I look?" and I said well we should look for another dress cuz I know you can look good.
2007-12-21 20:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by redgirl 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If she was my friend, I would pick out another bathing suit for her and tell her how pretty she would look in it. Just tell her that the one you picked out makes her look slimmer and the color looks great with her skin complextion. And pick one that has one of those wrap around things that hide the thighs. Big women look nice in those. Tell her that the one she picked out doesn't compliment her too well. If she is truly your friend, she will appreciate your honesty....or you trying to help her. Being too honest may hurt her feelings and we don't want to be rude right? Dont tell her she has cottage cheese thighs! lol
2007-12-22 08:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
its hard, cause u don't want to hurt her i guess, but if u have that relationship with your friend that u can say anything upfront to her, and her not to get so cut, then its best you tell her, its better coming from you than a million stares of, i guess disgust when summer comes around. just be honest to a degree, and suggest something else that she could wear that's more flattering... good luck
2007-12-21 20:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
its not your job to pick out her clothing. plus if they made the bikini in her plus size then i guess it was meant for her. or maybe she has plans to lose a lil weight for the summer and the bikini is her goal.
dont jeopardize ur friendship by insulting her and making urself seem better then her, if after you have hinted a lil then let her find out for herself that it just may not work. or maybe she straight up doesnt care what others think.
2007-12-21 20:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your letter did not say where you are from, however Summer is some way off in this area. Perhaps she is just hoping that by that time she will have improved her body and its an incentive for her. Now, the question I find is who will be embarrassed, her or her friends. Accept her as she is, encourage her to loose weight and an active lifestyle in a positive manner for her health, its hard to imagine she is not aware of her appearance, would guess more so she is painfully aware of it, and just feeling so what and defensive, we are what we are what we are. (PS, its great you are defensive and want to save her from stares, but life is to be enjoyed, and at least she is trying and not hiding away)
2007-12-21 23:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's hard, since some time's people just don't get it. If I were you I would seriously let her embarrass her self. If she thinks she looks hot in it, let people talk **** and maby then she will get the picture. If she really thinks she looks good in it then let her. She wont get it until some one mistakes her for a beach whale.
2007-12-21 20:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by ♫Autumn♫ 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
your friend needs to check herself and realize that she is not a size 6. You are not to blame, it is her who refuses to see the reality of things so just let her do what she wants and get clowned!
2007-12-22 15:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i hope she losses wight before summer other wise she will probably hear mean things there is not much you can do other than sow support when needed
2007-12-22 02:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by irish_matt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its more of a problem to you than her.
I wish i had that confidence to wear a bikini and im not even heavy set.
if it bothers you that much, then tell her nicely..
but if i were you i wouldnt tell her, thats just gunna bring her down.
2007-12-21 20:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by skdjgksjdglj 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋