I like a girl, and her family and mine share the same friends. And one night after we were talking, she sent a text saying she was starting to like me too. However, the next night she sent another text saying that she cant put up with all the crap her parents and the other mutual adult friends were giving her. Tonight I went to a party her parents were throwing, and she would get close to me every once in a while, but then move farther away. When I was sitting on a couch in her room alone, she sat next to me. Eventually she got closer and laid her head on my shoulder. After about 5 minutes of her laying there though, we heard someone in the hall outside of her room, so she hopped up and got onto her bed. She would also poke me or push me playfully a lot, and we made a looot of eye contact. It seems to me that she likes me, but is afraid of the comments everyone is making, so she avoids being seen showing she likes me by the adults . What can I do to make her more comfortable?
2007-12-21 20:19:46 · 9 answers · asked by Zach D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell her that I dont care about the comments they make, and that I only care about being with her, but I dont know if its making her feel any better.
Towards the end of the party the adults(who were drinking because it was a wine party) came in and my dad said we had to leave. As we did the other dads were making comments. I had been laying on her bed and had taken my shoes off, so when they saw me putting my shoes on one of them shouted "Hes putting his clothes back on!", or if they saw us sitting together they would make comments about keeping us separate. When I was leaving she seems really upset, and barely said anything to me other than goodbye and gave me a hug.
Oh, and I asked her out last week, but she wanted to hang out more first and "see what happens". How however she said she wants to stay friends "but if anything happened and it felt right, I wouldnt stop it."
2007-12-21 20:19:54 · update #1
yeh....she cares way too much about what everyone else thinks and isn't listening to her heart.
you need to talk to her, tell her all the things she wants to hear while throwing in some comments like "why does it matter what others say? we're together and thats all that should matter" then give her time. she said she is starting to like you, well if she loved u completely she wouldn't care what others say, so give her time to love you more and then see what happens. good luck.
2007-12-21 20:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its really hard to give you a direct answer to this since I dont know what the adults are saying to her. If they are teasing her, well these adults need to get a life, because if she is shy they are only making it worse. Another thing don't go into her bedroom when there's company, you are only looking for comments. Not saying its your fault. do something together that you both enjoy, play a computer game, outdoor basketball, does she have any activities you can do in their rec room or Family room ? A long as you both keep busy no one should bug you 2. Keep the romantic stuff + flirting when the company isn't around. Your lives isn't a show for everyone to enjoy or make comments on. Do things together when there is no parties. You will be alone + have some privacy, your parents party doesn't offer any privacy. : )
Not only that but those comments about your shoes is only going to make her look like a tramp. Keep your shoes/clothes on to keep her good reputation.
2007-12-21 20:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by toobingaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, keep being friends with her. These adults are just being plain mean. It will eventually brush over. They will eventually stop. Just let them know that it does not bother you and her. You have to make it so it does not bother either of you. When they say something tune it out. Or let it go in one ear and out the other. You were putting your shoes on not your clothes and that was not right for him to say. You guys seem to really like each other and you should be together.
2007-12-21 20:31:13 · answer #3 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, sounds like you two are more adult like than the supposed grown ups! As for advice...keep it casual for now and like she said, see where it goes. Ask her to a more appropriate hang out location---like the mall with a group of friends, or a movie that everyone is going to see (all your friends, I mean)...something that's going to seem more like a group hang out...which will give the two of you a chance to hang out away from the "adults" who act like they are in 6th grade!! Best of luck.
2007-12-21 20:25:21 · answer #4 · answered by guinness77_doll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you really like her if your writing this much about her, so hang out with her, after a while they'll get over it and accept you and her. Good luck!
2007-12-21 20:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by ellie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to be patient here. In the time being, it's so thrilling to be stealing moments here and there and hope that you don't get caught out.
2007-12-21 20:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out to somewhere where neither her parents or their adult friends are present, and see what will happen
or maybe her parents aren't too OK with her bringing you to her home??
2007-12-21 20:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Vivid Pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dude, plenty of other fish in the sea. She's not worth it trust me
2007-12-21 20:24:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should just ake it slow
2007-12-21 20:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋