i was in a long distance for a yr. we met up each other but not too often. i met his WHOLE family and was at his sisters wedding. we talked, e-mailed daily, multiple times. Intially he wanted to make long distance work and i trusted him; was optimistic about making it work. He also wanted to move in together although i had some reservations about it. Finally i was moving closer to him..my college was 6 hrs from him and i was planning to met up with him soon. He tells me he met someone Mon at the gym and by Wed wants to end what we have. How can he end it so quick? Also, now that i am much closer he wants to end it? So he texts me and that was that. he didn't want to talk to me anymore or "drag" it out anymore. He just wants to have fun. How can someone just end it without even talking to person he were in a relationship with? it is heartbreaking. Why feed me with all his BS?? and i fell for it too.
2007-12-21 20:10:55 · 8 answers · asked by Betsy Boop 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I kno couples that were married for years, guy goes off to war his wife opens an all you can eat buffet between her legs, he comes back finds out and flips out. Then they get a divorce and that's that. Happens all the time. If it was ment to be it'll be. I know people that have been married for like 20 years and been with their spouses for like half of it and they're still happy and faithful. Just go out there and find that guy that is willing to be there through thick and thin. I think that's referring to weight as well.
2007-12-21 20:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by A55H0L3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it probably was not bullshit. Long distance relationships are very hard on people. I am in a long distance relationship now and I know it is very hard. Six hours away from someone sometimes is too far for them. You moved closer but he probably had already been looking for someone. She is in the same place he lives, she can be there everyday etc. You on the other hand are six hours away if he called you one night to hang out he would have to wait six hours while he might not have to wait but 15ish minutes for her to come. Yes, it is heart breaking. He should have explained to you more. You really do not break up over text messaging. Well, he might be thinking that a clean break without him being hurt because of the his decision was the best thing. If he dragged it out then he might be thinking he would go back with you and thats not what he wants to do. I know that a lot of people have been friends after relationships of that sort. Which I find what he is doing odd. If you meet someone Monday ending the relationship on Weds is odd to. It might not be the full story. There might be something he infact is not telling you or something else going on in his life. It seems like he is hiding something from you are well.
2007-12-22 04:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously was`nt as committed to the relationship as you which is a great shame as long distance relationships are a good way of really finding out about someone, as there is more internet chat as well as phone chat and texting.I met my present girlfriend on the internet and we spent hours chatting online from day one. I was recently divorced and the last thing on my mind was a relationship but i got to know her so well in two weeks that i met her after ten days and i moved 250 miles, after packing up 3 businesses i had,to live with her within 10 weeks. I`ve never been happier. Count yourelf lucky that you didnt fully commit to him and end up regretting turning your life around for nothing. I may have just been one of the few lucky ones but internet dating does work if you meet each other a few times before a committment to move in with them. Sincerely hope you have more luck in the future and all the best for crimbles sweetheart xxx
2007-12-22 04:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by toxicbachelor86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question. He was feeding you BS the whole time. He basically used you as a backstop, a go-to in case things didn't work out for him in a more immediate way. It sounds like he was insecure in giving you up until he had someone else to fill that void.
100 to 1 that if things don't work out with this person he met at the gym, he'll try to get back into your good graces...
2007-12-22 04:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by lovescoldheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...well apparently he didn't like you enough to stay in a long distance relationship, and if he ended it so soon, he didn't care that much for you, if you ask me. I would move on, and find me someone else, that actually cared, if I was you. I would show him that he isn't the only guy for me.
2007-12-22 04:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships, a lot of times, end up in un-faithfulness and cheating. unfortunately for you, it seems like that has happened... or he wanted someone that was closer and could hang out with easier. either way, i feel bad for you =/ best of luck
2007-12-22 04:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by tw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he had already established another relationship and when you moved closer it became too risky to continue with both. he has chosen the other girl and wants your relationship finalised so that it doesn't get messy with his new girl.
sorry :(
2007-12-22 04:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys had any sex? maybe he did it with that person he met and finally realized what's he want deeply...?
2007-12-22 04:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋