Why is it wrong to carry grudge against anyone?

Question

Why is it wrong to carry grudge against anyone?

Answer 1

Is it wrong?

Answer 2

First of all to carry a grudge you must maintain the anger, so you always have to be looking to justify more anger. You can not forgive and carry a grudge. A grudge takes energy to maintain.

It is easier to forgive and accept things. If the party can't communicate and hence it can not be 'resolved' you will need to accept that fact too. Hopefully this is someone you can reason with and agree on a new pattern to proceed.

If not... good luck,

Answer 3

I don't know if it is really WRONG, but it is stupid for a really good reason: it is emotionally harmful to the person holding the grudge. There is no reason to do it, no point. Why go through that kind of grief. A mature, healthy person will get over it and move on. The immature, unhealthy person will stew over a grudge, build hatred in their heart, and this will lead to extra stress and often health problems. And if that person acts on that grudge, it can come back and bite them in may ways: legally, financially, or in the form of a feud. Are they wrong? Guess it depends, but regardless, grudges are bad news.

Answer 4

Holding a grudge against her is going to turn you in to the very thing you hate most,another version of her.That being said she abused you and encouraged your Dad to abuse you so this goes way deeper than you holding a grudge.Abuse is against the law and she needs to be turned in to the authorities.One thing you don't want to do is hate her,I know that is hard but it will just make you miserable and make you mean like her.It is apparent she has issues so by you not holding a grudge it will make you the bigger and better person and will make you in to a person she could never be.One thing you don't ever want to do though is ask yourself or others why she hates you like you feel it is your fault because it isn't your fault.Some people unfortunately are wired wrong and she appears to be one of them so the fault and the blame is on her.It's sad there are people who have children that they don't appreciate and respect.I once had a daughter who through no fault of my own turned on me and I would give almost anything to have a child that just wants me to care about them,your mom does not see the blessings she has in you and your sister and that is really sad.If you don't want to contact authorities at least see if staying with a relative who cares about you is an option and I say that because agencies such as Children and Youth sometimes place children in a worse situation and plus you and your sister might get separated.Neither you or your sister deserve this so please get out of that home to somewhere that you will get treated with the care that you deserve.

Answer 5

Because it is very unhealthy. It takes you a lot of your energy. I read somewhere that people holding grudges and seeking revenge will most likely suffer from heart diseases. I have trouble with grudges too I seem to take everything to serious. Every time I let go of a grudge, I feel a lot better. It sounds silly, but the quote "love your enemy" seems to be healing.

Answer 6

Carry a grudge if you want to.
If you do not care about freeing your mind and ridding yourself of pain.
Getting over the grudge would benefit you not the person you dislike.

Answer 7

If there was something done to you that was a horrific thing, you will never forget it completely. If what happened was more of a slight, eventually you will likely forget about about it.

In either case, it is best to come to terms with whatever it is and release it. If you don't release it and look toward the future, it will condemn you to think with malice and harm.

Feelings like malice, harm, and anger will continually haunt you and bounce back toward you like a mirror. Why should you have this anger and negative feeling inside of you? Who do you think it harms?

If you have a religious belief, use it to help turn this negative energy that is bottled up into positive energy. If you don't have a religion, talk with someone such as a counselor to help turn this bad feeling into something good.

Keep in mind that angry people tend toward more health problems such as ulcers. Harming yourself or someone else just makes the problem worse, never better.

It sounds tough to let it go and sometimes it is, but it is better than allowing it to eat you from the inside.

-may you turn all your negatives into a positive and have a blessed 2008-

Answer 8

There's a difference between "forgiving, but not forgetting" and holding a grudge. Holding a grudge implies you haven't forgiven the person, while "not forgetting" is simply learning your lesson on how to react to/handle the person who hurt you.

Feel the feeling and let it go; it sounds cliche, but life really is too short to blow on maintaining a grudge.

Answer 9

Because grudges are usually carried on for stupid reasons. That's why they're called "grudges". Otherwise it would just be some really good reason to hate someone, which would be okay.

Answer 10

Life is just to short to dwell on the negative. You're not happy with yourself and there really isn't a good reason to hold a grudge. Don't get mad when it's allot more fun to get even.

Answer 11

you will remeber the slight more than they will.

look at it like carrying some backpack around, and every slight or insult is like a rock. big rocks, small rocks, whatever. and you pick one up and put it in your pack and carry it around. 10, 100, 300, maybe you can do it without much pain or strain. everything into the bag, nothing goes out. Who's gonna suffer more, you, the rocks, or the one that caused you pain?

Hey, you're the one with the backpack full of rocks...