Okay well me and my bf started secretcly going out in like December, a couple of weeks after he broke up with his ex. And ever since we have been dating, its like a rollercoaster ride. He can be really rude to me, and the next really nice, which really sucks! And now tonight I just found out that he still talks to his ex on the phone, and he couldnt even phone me when i asked him too. What should I do?? I want to break up with him,but then i dont. I know he still has feelimgs for his ex, but I dont know what to say to him.
2007-12-21 17:03:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh man. That's such a hard situation. I think you should sit down with him and talk. Ask him how he truely feels about her, and don't let his honesty hurt you. If he tells you he still feels a lot for her then you need to allow him to do what he wants, and your best bet is to stay close to him, as if nothing more then a friend. Let him decide what he wants since you aleady know what you want! This is my secret: allow him to feel comfortable and let him know everything will be okay and you will be there for him no matter what. Still joke around with him, don't be angry! He won't want to be around you! And eventually...He'll realize the way you make him feel all the time is wonderful and he won't want to give that up!
2007-12-21 17:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u haven't been seeing him long enough to have formed that much of an emotional attachment. if he runs hot and cold this early in the relationship it is safe to say he has issues and u need to count your blessings that u are not in any deeper and say good-bye. sounds like u may have some insecurities of your own. it would be a positive step for you to move on without him. BE STRONG, and don't EVER let any one treat u wrong.
2007-12-22 01:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Christopher N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you aren't getting what you need out of the relationship. That you need a boyfriend that doesn't talk or still have feelings for their ex.
2007-12-22 01:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Julie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop this guy like a hot rock, that's messy before you even get into it seriously and it's not worth the trouble. life is way too short for dramatic boys, unless that gets you off, then I guess it'll be a good time for you, some people thrive on that sort of thing, good luck!
2007-12-22 01:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by kylie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got the right idea hun(: you sound like a smart girl...just tell him the truth... say somthing like "look...i think you still have things to work out with your ex, you should take the time to do that and i wish you the best" but i'm sure you'll come up with your own way of saying it. good luck(:
2007-12-22 01:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get rid of him. He'll only use you. You don't have to put up with some one being rude. A boyfriend don't act like that. No wonder him and his other girl broke up!
2007-12-22 01:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by mikk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, what are you waiting for? Can't you see that he's bipolar with you. He is not worth it...I mean talking to his ex is fine, they could be friends, but talking to her and not calling you because he's on the line with her is a NO - NO. Also, the mood...
2007-12-22 01:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by ^Blue Rose^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever can't let go of their past is not a good idea to date, especially the actions you're describing! I suggest you let him go, if not, you'll be the hurt one at the end. Take it from experience and good luck making your decision!
2007-12-22 01:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by NY0120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please please break up with him, he's just using you. Not to be mean but your the rebound. Why would you want to talk on the phone with someone who doesnt even want to talk to you. If you know he stills has feelings for his ex, then why do you want him. You can find someone way better who wont be mean to you
2007-12-22 01:08:56 · answer #9 · answered by bianca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really talk to him and straighten all that out. If anything, admit to each other you dont have strong feelings and would rather be friends
2007-12-22 01:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋