I met my husband when I was 16. We've been married for 8 years...together for 14 years. I have never cheated on him and I don't think I ever would. But, I don't get the attention from him anymore that I used to get. He never compliments me. He never says I love you unless he's going to bed. He never holds my hand when we walk somewhere together. He doesn't do any of the "little things" anymore. I miss the feelings and the rush I used to get from those "little things". Lately, I've found myself openly flirting with some of the men (younger or older) that I come into contact with at work. I know I act like I'm interested in them, but I'm really not. I just enjoy the playfulness that comes along with the flirting. I enjoy hearing that I look nice or my hair looks pretty or that I have a beautiful smile. It gives me butterflies in my stomach. I haven't had that in a long time. I don't feel guilty about this, but I do wonder if it's inappropriate. Any opinions?
2007-12-21 16:55:05 · 7 answers · asked by devil_in_disguise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just think if it was your husband in your shoes doing all this, would you feel comfortable with him doing it? That always helps
2007-12-21 16:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wrong? Hmm... probably not. Stupid? Definitely. How would you feel if he did the same thing? What will you do when one of these young men expects more? Problem here is that you are not dealing with your real problem in a healthy manner. Instead of wasting your time flirting and basically putting yourself in the position of being a part of the problem, you should be working on fixing the marriage. What you are doing is like finding out you might have cancer and taking up smoking to fix it. Instead, talk to your husband about this! Tell him what you want! Odds are he has no clue, because you probably haven't been clear about what you need. And get some marriage counseling! If he won't go, then go yourself. If none of that works, then it's time to get out of the marriage. That is what divorce is for. Then you won't be wasting your time flirting. You'll be doing what you have to do to find a new relationship that fulfills your needs. Good luck!
2007-12-21 17:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not wrong at all as long as flirting is all it is, but in a way it is unfair, is your husband aware he makes you feel like this? like theres an empty spot? Give him a chance to fix things and be more observant, if you will. He atleast deserves that. Congrats on such a long relationship, there hard to find and even harder to keep.
2007-12-21 17:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Bxbabifinest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You threading on dangerous territory. Now its flirtations but like your husband it will get boring and in time you'll want more. Wear sexy lingerie, go out on dates (with your husband) take some time of like 2 weeks then meet each other again spice it up........
2007-12-21 17:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Strider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are walking a pretty fine line girl and your 30s are when a women gets a little more how should I say it " horney "
2007-12-21 17:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its fine. just don't start going out on little flirty DATES. You seem to know where to draw the line.
2007-12-21 16:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong because it can still hurt your husband!
It is like saying, "I did not kill him, but I broke his limb!"
Don't do it, please!
2007-12-21 16:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Protik Maitra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋