Exactly how important is weight in selecting a significant other?

Question

I’ve been getting to know this lady that’s pretty much everything I’ve been looking for. She’s nice, has a friendly personality, feminine, don’t be all talkin stupid or nutin (lol), has similar interests as myself, has morals, is trustworthy, and has a fun selection of hobbies. On top of that, she’s young (in my general age group). This lady is perfect except for one flaw: she’s fat. However, her face is gorgeous, and she doesn’t have that nasty personality that you see with some fat women. Long strawberry blonde hair, blue eyes, pretty smile. She really likes me, and I must admit that I like her too, even though she doesn’t have a future as a lingerie model. Granted, I’m not in perfect shape either, but I just have a few extra pounds. How significant do you think this is? Would it create any long term problems in a relationship? This is not her, but she looks similar to this lady: tohttp://i180.photobucket.com/albums/x40/Mike_F_620/overweight2.jpg?t=1198299930

Answer 1

I think you are lucky to have found someone with all of those qualities that you have described. What does weight even mean in the grand scheme of things? It is not someone's weight that makes them thoughtful and nice. In fact, there are tons of skinny girls that have awful personalities. Would you rather be with them? I can guarantee you that it is a girl's personality that will make you happy for the long haul, not her body. Believe me, chubby girls are just as good at physical intimacy. Also, you'll find that a lot of girls that are thin now, will not be that thin in five or ten years. Pick a woman for the things that are important, like whether she treats you well, not for her body.

Answer 2

im 5'9 and 165 pounds and my gf is 5'7 180 so theres not much difference there. Kinda rude but how much do u weigh? cuz 15 pounds is nothin for us but if she weighs more than u by 50 pounds or more ide try for someone else but keep her ur friend.

Answer 3

In my opinion, it's all about the personality.
For instance, I had a crush on this guy who looked really old, but he had a pretty cool personality. But then I found out he drank and stuff, and I was like no thanks.
Anyways, if she's fun to hang with and you really like her, her looks shouldn't matter. GO FOR IT!

Answer 4

Weight should be a non-issue if you love someone, but seeing how you went on and on and on about it I'd say she deserves someone with a little more respect for who she is.

Answer 5

Looks aren't everything. I think it's what's inside that counts. She sounds like a wonderful lady. Give her a chance.

Answer 6

weight is not important for me. love is not about finding a seemingly perfect partner, but creating a seemingly perfect relationship.

Answer 7

I'd say go for it... Maybe in the future you guys can develop a more active lifestyle.
I also think that you could be attracted to her but that's for you to figure out.. No one can tell you that.

Answer 8

If you like her, go for it. Unless you are not attacted to her, it shouldn't be an issue. She sounds great. You shouldn't even really be worrying about this.

Answer 9

Personally, I believe weight shouldn't matter.
You should be with the one you love, and makes you happy.
Just because she's overweight doesn't mean she doesn't deserve to be treated like the beautiful person she is.
I hope this helped.
Good Luck, and Happy Holidays. :)

Answer 10

if wanna touch a gross fat body then go right ahead. doesnt matter what anyone else thinks