I was wondering about sex before marriage. Is it wrong? Because someone told me God wants us to be" fruitful and reproducing", then again, there are debates that it's immoral and a sin?
2007-12-21 15:26:10 · 15 answers · asked by k t 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dear friend,
Your 2 statements here are true and Biblical except there are read in isolation without the contextual background.
1) Act of sex is the epitome of the manifestation of love relationship between a husband and wife. There are many acts of love we have known but none come close to the initimacy and substance of a sexual engagement which, because its so special and to a good extent sacred, is reserved for couple who loved each other so deeply as they want to be commit to live with each other as husband and wife. Unless our love for our partner is one which is so great that we would want to marry her/him, the question of experiencing the wonderful act of love in sex should not come in at all and if it does, its only after the act of mutual commitment - in the form of marriage - comes into discussion.
It is certainly a immensely pleasurable experience and because its such, then we must reserve it only for the spouse we marry - contrary to what the outside world is doing, their good sounding reasons and rationale.
Ask God for self control
2) Be fruitful.
the presumption is that one would conceive the very child that is out of wedlock. Besides the Biblical contradiction, there is also a social dilemma here. How can one society truly function with children who have no legitimate children - let alone what God thinks.
Certainly this was the commandment God gave to Abraham when he made him the Father of the Nation. This is done purely in the context of His marriage to Sarah with whom they populated the earth...........
How to reconcile the 2? Its to understand God's purpose for mankind is to love Him and seriously follow His direction for marriage relationship in looking for a spouse whom we can love and live for the rest of our lives. And in that relationship, conceive and have children, to the maximum of what is financially and practically feasible. Of course this would mean different things to different people. Its path and choice one would take in consultation with your spouse and in prayer with God.
2007-12-23 12:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by David A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. God has rules to protect us. Our hearts, our spirits. When you have sex with someone you become one. A spiritual tie is placed to that person. One of the best things in life is being able to look at the person you are marrying and know that you both remained pure and had the self-control to respect yourselves, but ultimately to respect God and His commands.
I didn't do this before I was married. I was raped and then I felt like I didn't really have a reason to keep myself for my future husband. When I met him, we had sex right away. All the things you are supposed to learn in the first part of your marriage weren't there. Our honeymoon was just another night, nothing special at all. The funny thing is that he committed adultery and so did I eventually, and we ended up divorcing. After 1 1/2 of not caring about myself, I made the decision that I wasn't going to have sex with any man until the day I was married. It saved me from a lot of heart ache, knowing that guys just wanted sex, no commitment. I waited for a while and then I met the guy I am seeing now. He has been with one person is whole life and that is his ex-wife.(She abandoned him and his boys) We have been dating for three months and no sex. There won't be for either of us. It's hard sometimes, but the respect level is there for both of us and it makes our bond stronger than anything I have felt before. Our love is based on who we are, not what we are able to gain from each other, and it takes a lot of stress out of the relationship. Believe me, it is so worth the wait!!! I wish I had originally, but I know that forgiveness is there. The hardest thing is to forgive yourself.
2007-12-21 16:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by jenwom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't want you to have a bunch of kids out of wedlock. To a Christian, marriage is usually held in high regard. What could be more beautiful than for a godly man and woman to commit to one another their life-long, self-sacrificing love?
"Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a men leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife: And they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder" (Matthew 19:4-6).
And this is why we marry. God created men and women in His image (Genesis 1:27), and designed them to function in a certain way. Premarital chastity, marital fidelity, one man for one woman, for life. Anything less distorts His image, defeats His intention, and limits our effectiveness as His servants.
2007-12-21 17:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at woman with lust is a sin so yes premarital sex is wrong so is murder and its all looked apoun in the same way its sin. Premarital sex is bad(Ive been there) because it gives you comparisons with others ffellings that you numb out over time,one of the most beautiful things I have ever witnessed was a Lady on her wedding Day looking at her man with the most honor and respect I have ever seen and said"Thank you for keeping me holy!" was not a dry eye in the place its worth waiting for!
2007-12-21 15:34:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
God says that fornication is wrong- and fornication is sex before marriage- we are to be fruitful and reproduce after marriage, not before
2007-12-21 16:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex is for after marriage. It is called fornication before marriage or if one of the parties is married it is called adultery. Both situations are sinful according to God's word and we are not to take part in them. If you love God you will obey His word.
2007-12-21 15:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Steiner 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is a sin to have sex before marriage. One of the Ten Commandments is Thou shall not commit adultery.
2007-12-21 15:31:57 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia M 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
premarital sex is a sin.
in order to be fruitful and multiply you have to be married. not with every man or woman that comes along.
sex is for marriage only.
2007-12-21 15:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
God wants us to be fruitful AFTER marriage. Not before it.
2007-12-21 15:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by * 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
this is the 20th time i have seen this question...whats so wrong with waiting and NOT giving your body, which you should think to be very sacred and no deserving to every one......God whats sex to be a bond between one man and one woman....they come together as one through marriage and sex solidifies that bond....
2007-12-21 15:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋