She cheated on him, but now she says she "regrets" and that "she will never do it again". And it seems like my boyfriend still has feelings for her. Should i be worried about that? We've been dating for 6 months and i really love him!
2007-12-21 15:19:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll break this to you gently.....are you married to him? If not there really isn't anything you can do about it.
You can tell him your feelings and that you have a concern about her and him but beyond that you have two choices. (one) you can accept it and continue dating him, or (two) you can break up with him and move on.
Either way you may be unhappy but you will have to finally make the choice on your own. He may even save you the trouble and break it off with you and return to her. And that is his choice to do as well.
2007-12-21 15:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by pinelake302 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it! (I know, easy for me to say, right?!) The bottom line is that, it is up to your BF to decide what he wants. You say it SEEMS like he still has feelings - he may, maybe not. Maybe the feelings he has are mixed, maybe he is repelled by the fact that she cheated. But if you worry, it is not going to help things, and may actually help drive him away, because no one wants to be with someone who is clingy or insecure. Whatever you feel isn't going to change what is going to happen either way, so be confident and supportive! Whatever happens, you will come out looking like a class act!
2007-12-21 15:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't worry. If he cheats than he is an a*s but seriously...would you like to date a guy who is staying with you only because you're constantly behind his back? No. Maybe he doesn't feel anything for her. You can't know...just wait and see
2007-12-21 15:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by yanagihana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there! Same situation.
Loyalty is very important to me in a boyfriend, so I did absolutely nothing to see how he would handle the situation. I found out that he is a stinker! He cheated on me.So I broke up with him. His lousy character was exposed! Sure, it hurt really badly, but I lost someone I needed to loose. I suggest you do the same thing because if your boyfriend is really yours, his ex can't take him away from you! You want someone who is wholeheartedly committed to you and whose loyalty you never have to question.
2007-12-21 15:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by lauras_email 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ehh... tough situation, it really is. just make it clear to him thats its you or her. and if he says anything along the lines of " but why do i have to choose" or i dont know i havnt made up my mind yet.. then drop him. if you have been with him for 6 months and have brought nothing but happiness to his life, then he shouldn't even wanna hear from his X girlfriend. But on the other hand, if you want to stay with him... hmm...... thats a tough one. you cant make someone stay with you as much as want to, but just let him know how things were with his x, that if she cheated before shed prob. cheated again, and you would never do anything like that . i dono if you wana stay with him, even though he still has feelings for her then i dont really know what to tell you. i wish you luck though =/
2007-12-21 15:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by Martin512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he still has feelings for him you should be worried to a certain extent. If he realizes that you are better for him and has strong feelings for you, he won't stray. You need to seriously talk to him about it, and be calm and make sure he can open up to you. You certainly don't want to be the one who ends up getting hurt.
2007-12-21 15:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be back dating a cheater ,by all means let him go......but just remind him that once someone cheats they usually do it again.........if he choses to go back to her,well i think they deserve each other and your better off without him
2007-12-21 15:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by fairyopolis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll be begging to come back to you after she cheats on him again... He's gonna cheat on you with her.......What are you gonna do?
2007-12-21 15:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by homeslice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him if he still lilke her.... if he say no and still loves u tell him to talk to the girl to tell her that its over... then u talk to the girl to stay away....... ask him who he really wants....its hard to still love some that loves someone eles....but if he still loves her.... leave him for a wall untill he get his mind clear up.... if it is meant to be then u two will come back....
they say if u love some one u have got to let go.. and if they come back then it will mean so much more
2007-12-21 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋