I've been with my fiance for almost 2 years now... the sex was great but later on in the relationship i just didn't want it anymore.. i mean we were having sex alot everyday and i got to the point where i didn't find it good anymore more...3 months ago i came to my home town on vaction to get away from some problems i was having where i was ( no probs between me and my fiance tho) well now that we haven't had sex in almost 4 months i can't stop thinking about it.. i have 100% feeling it's going to be good.. do you think this is because we were having sex too much?? and now that we haven't in a while it's kind of like back to as if we were meeting for the 1st time and having sex for the 1st time..he doesn't know that i've been feeling like this... when i got sick of the sex i started faking my orgasms but he doesn't know that.... i feel bad... is all of this because of my hormones?? or because we were having sex too much?? what do you think?? i defently know to slow down the sex........
2007-12-21 15:11:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's your experience?? do you know where i'm coming from??? i really love him... i think that we gotta slow it down and i know i should talk to him about it...........
2007-12-21 15:13:10 · update #1
i'm flying back to california in 2 weeks we haven't seen each other in 4 months....
2007-12-21 15:15:55 · update #2
i'm kind of nervous........ any other advice you could give to me??? i'm really really nervous...
2007-12-21 15:16:32 · update #3
Well now it sounds like you are ready for a happy reunion. I think all will be great for you guys. I hope nothing but the best. I think that in the beginning of a relationship the sex is always good. I don't think that you really stop wanting to have sex its just that the same ole same ole don't work forever. So you have to start adding things to spice up your life weather it be toys or other things...lol. The thing is you can't be embarrassed to tell your significant other what it is you need to fullfill you desires. Faking it won't solve anything. It will only make him think that he is doing something good. Instead talk to him and let him know what you need and wan't. I hope you two have Merry Christmas and happy new year.
2007-12-21 15:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mark A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely normal. You probably were having sex too often before. Having sex about 3 times a week is about normal for the average person. If it is happening every single day, you are having sex for a reason other than pleasure.
Taking a break is a good idea occasionally. It is perfectly normal to regenerate your sex drive. Now that you have had a break, it probably will be good again. This time around, I would recommend less frequent sex than before. If it gets boring again, take another break. You may want to tell your fiance that you still want to have sex with him, but not as frequently before.
2007-12-21 23:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you were having sex so much that your vaginal opening was stretched to the point whereas it became difficult for you to climax as explosively as before. Faking orgasms is NEVER a good idea and you may have stopped having sex because of that [he may have picked up on it and never said anything about it]. Sex about three to four times a week is good. you won't grow bored and you'll always want him every time. <3
2007-12-21 23:18:12 · answer #3 · answered by C.o.l.d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To much sex? No such thing unless it is against your very own will. There are many factors that can contribute to this experience, including but not limited to: Diet, sleep patterns, hormone levels, depression, work schedules, seasonal affective disorder ... and I could go on and on. If you are concerned enough to ask this here, maybe you should seek some counseling. Hope this helps.
2007-12-21 23:26:40 · answer #4 · answered by Juk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do need to talk. I was married for over 30 years then divorced. I remarried and have been married over 2 years now and I never knew how special it could be. Needlessly to say it is not a everyday occurrence but it is a very special occurrence. Good Luck to you.
2007-12-21 23:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jake S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love chocolate but if I eat too much of it, I'll vomit.
Sex is great but it is possible to have too much of a good thing. There is a reason they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Well abstinence can make the hormones grow hotter.
2007-12-21 23:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Boots 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To much of a good thing gets boring. I used to date a girl like this. We got it on everyday. After awile, it got so routine and boring. Slow down and enjoy each other.
2007-12-21 23:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by pumper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have got to learn to do different things and plan fun stupid stuff relationships are about more than sex be a little more spontainus wine and candles and lotions and sexy outfits walking around the house in nothing but a shirt making out in different places its about fantasy and sometimes its just plain cuddling each other
2007-12-21 23:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just start again from the beginning, that's magical
2007-12-21 23:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe? and if it does make it a special thing and try some new things to make it more interesting!:)
2007-12-21 23:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋