He exposed himself to an underage girl- thought she was older- but she wasn't. But he still exposed himself- at 36 I still wouldn't want to see that anyway let alone underage- but now he is in counseling, goes to church, follows everything in probation, works hard- is a very nice guy. Is he dateable if I am willing to go by his probation rules- as in he has a curfew and can't leave the county, OY- that sounds bad- can't wait to hear these responses- - can a sex offender do his time nd be rehabilatated? Sorry to ask this twice
2007-12-21 15:00:47 · 13 answers · asked by banana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No plans to marry- haven't evened dated him seriously yet- but I want no kids and he wangs no kids either and we are both in our late 30's- so time is ticking
2007-12-21 15:21:15 · update #1
Thats a hard one. So he just likes to flash his junk to women? Or did he ever cross a line with them? It he just like to flash his junk maybe he can get over it. Give it a try if you are willing sounds like you like him. So you might as well give it a go. Just be careful.
2007-12-21 15:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems that he made a mistake which is uncommon among the typical sex offenders who know the girl is underage and still expose themselves or touch them inappropiately. All you can really do is follow what you actually want. If you feel in your heart that he's a good guy then get to know him more, but discover if he is worth being with you given that he has this very serious past and is still paying for it.
2007-12-21 15:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Story Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough 1.......
People can and do change.......
Jury people have never been felons , and have no real idea how things are really "run" with the CORRECT-IONAL system
The System knows this.
CAN he be rehabilatated , Metally speaking Yes I believe sow.
But the CORRECTional system will never forgive him, even if he goes the rest of his life with out so much as a driving violation. Sad but true.
And are you up to the fact that you will end up carrying part of lable (generally speaking)and provisions he has "for the rest of your life"
Just because you are with him?
The the world can be very cruel.....
I think time will give you the best suggestion to your question.
2007-12-21 16:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by "Not today, Zurg!" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he can't even tell the difference between a mature woman and a young girl is very disturbing. Exposing yourself to anyone is creepy. If you were already in a relationship with him, I'd say stay and work it out. But as it stands, you should get to know him better and not date him until you are absolutely sure he has worked through his issues. If he's over 36, what's the rush?
P.S. I know a guy who use to expose himself in public. He was sexually abused as a child. Maybe that's your friend's core issue/problem too.
2007-12-21 15:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by R. Trout 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is the wrong forum to ask this question, honestly. You might be better off asking a mental health professional, someone who specializes in working with such cases. My sense is that the prognosis is not very good, but I do not have the data to back up this thought, and I would hate to mislead you. But just speaking as an older-but-wiser layperson, I would suggest you ask yourself, what do you hope to get out of this relationship? Just a date? Two? Ten? Do you hope to get married? Plenty of hypocrites go to church; that tells us nothing about what is in his heart and mind. If you hope to do so, your future - and if you opt to have kids, their future - is potentially at stake. Companionship is one thing, but a more serious commitment to someone with a serious problem - well, you said yourself, OY, that sounds bad.
2007-12-21 15:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him before you start to date him.
Everybody does the whole dating thing *** backwards, instead of being the most critical before getting involved in a relationship to make sure its the right one, we jump in head first with all the tolerance in the world. Then later in the relationship or marriage, we have no tolerance and are the most critical of our partner. Ever wonder why all the broken hearts and divorce?
2007-12-21 15:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by widget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't like getting a traffic ticket. There is something wrong with his brain if he is exposing himself to anyone, let alone a minor, and that can't be fixed with a little counseling.
2007-12-21 15:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i wouldn't trust them really. My sisters exe fiance was a sex offender. They dated for awhile then he robbed one of those hot spot places. He was filed with armed robbery. He was also a hard worker.
2007-12-21 15:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by Manda. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really it depends on the guy, if he really didn't know she was underage there is nothing to rehabilitate except maybe his ability to ask for id. but if he lied to you then you could be asking for trouble, if you believe it was truly just a mistake go ahead and date him.
2007-12-21 15:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by tamara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probly can be, but try 2 avoid anything other than kissing. Tell him 2 take it easy.
2007-12-21 15:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋