shes an idiot and claims she has depression and is only very good at hiding it but i know she doesnt shes a happy kid i see her big smile all the time and shes happy just ask her ex-boyfriend theres no problem with this child (i mean she was raped but she healed herself through God and church and church counseling) but see i am very angry about this she doesnt have freaking depression my only two good stepmom's had depression i mean one of them i found the body of when she commited suicide and the other decided she would stop going to therapy and taking her meds and i had to help her i mean that night was truely powerful to me just crying with her anyways...my friend doesnt have depression she freaking doesnt?!?!?!?!
how can i tell her that she is an idiot and isnt ill with anything?...though she did just have her boyfriend break up with her and thats when this started...how do i tell her that this is no reason to have depression??
2007-12-21 14:59:51 · 8 answers · asked by Raitlin B 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i admit calling her a moron was rude but i was quite angry when i wrote this and then her best friend fueling the fire like always against me didnt really help...bring out the worst in me...in response to that last answer... im not depressed..i mean yeah ive gone through some messy events my mom a chain smoking drunkard with ms dad raped me and has brutally beat me my whole life and the self-inflicted cuts on my arm could have been a dead give away though the cigarette burns and fork stab was all mom...am i denail no i know it happened and i accept this but am i ready to deal no...as evident from me going to cps today and denying my claim :)...honest i dont think im sick with anything i just been through some stuff and im a bit off from most people you meet and thats probably why i was so mad...but depressed no...but hey i think i was wrong to jump to the gun about my friend because i dont know jack about depression i only know about my stepmoms experience from an outward glance
2007-12-21 18:20:46 · update #1
Two things i can suggest right away. first stop calling her a moron and two..stop invalidating her emotional expression. there are many people who have been conditioned not to express how they really feel around others. common for rape victims. from what you've said this young lady has been raped, undergone 'religious conditioning', had a relationship fail and recently at that, (holidays being a troublesome time for so many) and has a friend whom she relies on who keeps telling her how she (heself not her friend) feels. now haven't seen or spoken with the young lady but it is possible she might be depressed. actually, if i found my step mother's body after a suicide and a second step mothers attempted suicide..i might be depressed as well. my question to you. could it be you are angry with your friend because you too are depressed and her admitting it only reflects it back upon you.
and that you yourself are in denial about dealing with rather trying and powerful events that would be difficult for anyone to deal with. so you deny your own and her depression with it. Dr Phil. table for two please. Depression is common and treatable. its nothing to be ashamed of. instead of asking your friend into your denial. help each other to face the day honestly. tomorrow truly will be better especially with a friend.
best of luck to you both. i'll spin a few prayer wheels for you both.
2007-12-21 15:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by fallendisciple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you went through all that -- damn. Thing she is doing is saying her "sadness" is depression and there is A BIG DIFFERENCE. True - serious depression is and can be serious --
tell her this...ALL HUMAN BEINGS GET SAD -- it's an emotion -- I'm not doing this in capitols for YOU - you sound quite intelligent. Is she a teenager ??? For some reason and I don't know why, many many teenage girls get this way -- it's almost EMO or whatever they want to call it --- it's an attention getter. She does not know what "true depression" is ....she can't handle "sad" ----- something we ALL (as human beings) HAVE to learn how to deal with. We all usually learn to bounce with the ball -- it goes up and it goes down but it always goes up again.......but sounds like she is trying to get sympathy. TELL HER people won't want to be around her if she's alwayss acting like that.
2007-12-21 15:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks that her sadness over her ex is depression. That's a very childish thing, but it must feel a lot worse than it really is to her. Also, the fact that she was raped probably left her very insecure, even if she did get healing. I also have some annoying friends, but they are still my friends so I don't turn my back on them. Try telling her that her ex wasn't the one for her and that in time she'll get over him. Just help her to forget about him. You might also try explaining to her that she is blowing the situation out of proportion and she does not have depression.
2007-12-21 15:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like the way you look very worrying and in contact approximately her and yet in the question you called her a moron, lol. people who've "psychological problems" do not comprehend in the event that they're feeling greater effectual mentally or not because of the fact what they see and hear them isn't strange. they are in a place to't tell the version between fact and their hallucinations. i could advise you inspire her to work out a doctor approximately this, it would not sound solid.
2016-10-02 05:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by doble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't call her an idiot. That seems snobby. Just tell her to look at some site about depression on the computer and tell her to compare that to her life.
2007-12-21 15:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have had a lot of heavy life experiences and as a result your "bar" is a lot lower than hers.
I find it alot easier to just ignore people that are nowhere close to where I'm at. Its not even worth EDUCATING them. Just roll your eyes and say to yourself "here she goes again".
What you see as just drama is real to her. Let her experience her reality. Just tell her you have no intention of holding her hand.
2007-12-21 22:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Dawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send her an email with a link to this question
2007-12-21 15:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by jon_mac_usa_007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compare her life to someone elses
someone who has it worse
2007-12-21 15:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋