How can I keep my guy hard?

Question

My boyfriend and I were having sex for the first time and in the middle of it he got soft??? It has happened to him before and I dont know if it is my fault or if there is anything that I can do... Help if you know of anything that I can do that would be great

Answer 1

play with his balls when ur doin the thing
and squeeze ur pc muscles while he's inside u
get some forever yours creme too
it keeps him hard for 15-20 min longer
make sure he's hard when u put it on though
we don't want no limp d*** now do we?

Answer 2

Well, let me answer on several levels. First, no, it's not necessarily your fault at all. Even young men can have trouble sustaining erections for several reasons besides lack of attraction. For one thing they can be scared or shy. This is especially likely if it was your first time together. You want him to feel excited, but excited and nervous are very similar emotions. For another thing, they can be alcohol induced. For a third, they may have just been hard for a long time already and those muscles may be tired. It is also possible his mind is wandering - not necessarily away from you but perhaps to whether he's doing it right or to what this is going to mean, instead of just staying in the moment. Don't be insulted. Something like just riding him harder might bring him back to the feeling in his groin. Any of the above are realistically very possible. If he's over the age of 21 or so it's even more possible, because the older men get the harder it is for them to sustain raging erections for long periods of time no matter how excited they are. There's not this special birthday when Viagara becomes relevant, and if there is it's certainly not when he's old, it's when he's much younger than you'd think. The problem simply becomes worse and worse as he gets older. Laugh privately about this if you need to but be understanding too, because it's just the way he's built and everyone's more or less the same on this point. You just don't know it yet.

The second piece of advice I can give you is far more practical and problem solving. There is no one magic thing you should be doing, but there are several ways you can work on it. One is very mechanical. Increase the friction on the head of his penis and the little red strip below it. Your vagina may be tight but it's also very soft and wet. Firm and dry may work better for the short term goal of getting him hard again. Try your hand or the combination of your hand and your mouth. Also, this probably isn't the problem if it's the first time but vary routine. No matter how much this is about love for both of you if it isn't also about pure, hot sex appeal it's going to work better as cuddling than sex, at least for him. Men are usually just dirtier than women and have more of a mind for variety. Again, it's not their fault. They come that way and then they're raised that way ontop of it. Don't be threatened by that. Realize that if you cater to his fantasies you will be rewarded in the form of attention.

Without more information no one can tell you for sure why he was getting limp, but I would not take it personally - there are far too many likely explanations that have nothing to do with the insecurities in your mind - and I would not make it personal, because it happens to almost every guy at one time or another.

Answer 3

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How can I keep my guy hard?
My boyfriend and I were having sex for the first time and in the middle of it he got soft??? It has happened to him before and I dont know if it is my fault or if there is anything that I can do... Help if you know of anything that I can do that would be great

Answer 4

Substance use (alcohol, pot, anything else) will often affect performance but if this isn't a factor it is most likely a psychological issue for him. Most likely a lack of confidence but stress could be a factor as well.

Answer 5

If you are having sex and he loses his erection, it probably isn't your fault., unless you moved and he pushed and bent himself, or you are biting him and he's uncomfortable with that.

Some ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is mental, some physical. The physical part can often be helped or cured, he should see a doctor. The mental, may take longer.

If you are young, he may just not be ready yet.

Answer 6

his name isnt eric is it??
my ex(eric) had the same thing
it was realy realy annoying
itn nothing to do with you
maybe talk to him next time ur going at it
ALSO buy a c()ck ring from your local adult shop
as soon as he is hard put that on and he will stay hard untill he comes
if he comes to quick
make sure he goves you a head job first so you have some sort of pleasure

Answer 7

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Answer 8

That happens to be his issue and does not have much to do with you, he is probably stressed or too worried about going soft or premature ejaculation to keep it up. Try making sex very stress free if he goes soft then engage in foreplay until he is good to go again.

Answer 9

Its normal if you don't change things around. Try changing positions every few minutes, and if he gets soft just perform oral until he gets hard again.

Answer 10

He just got soft? Did he ejaculate? That may be the reason he went soft, but if you're SURE he didn't well, maybe a little more foreplay, or say something dirty in his ear.