im 9 wks pregnant and i wanted to beak up with the father before i found out i was pregnant only my grandparents think that bc im pregnant i should try and work it out. the only problem is that he is severely bi polar (he takes medicine for it) and since he found out i was pregnant he tends to scare me. he blows up at the weirdest moments has started drinking and partying and i think cheating on me. His temper and partying ways didn't start till i told him that 3 pregnancy test all come out positive. start so my question is how do you break up with a severely bipolar man who has a short fuse? also does this happen a lot do men freak when they find out they are going g to be a parent?
2007-12-21 14:15:02 · 16 answers · asked by slushpuppie86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you everyone for your help and for the red top or whatever your name is i dint lay down with him when he was abusive. before i was pregnant he was funny and protective he made me laugh he was a "gentleman" and didnt start acting like an a$$ until he found out that I was pregnant.
2007-12-21 14:33:51 · update #1
Please, please get a protective order and keep your distance. Your story sounds just like mine. I found out I was pregnant with my son just around the time I wanted to break up with my bi polar boyfriend. I ended up staying in the relationship and it was the worst thing I could have ever done. I also ended up marrying the crazy guy. I thought things would change but they never did. They just got worse and the marriage was very abusive. The only way I was able to escape was with a protective order. Good Luck...
2007-12-21 14:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fear for your health or your life then you should start off filing for a restraining order. With those you can serve him over the phone right after you tell him that you're breaking up. When you go to court, they will order him to stay away from you and most likely the baby when it is born unless you suggest visitation. At least legally you will have a certain level of protection that you don't have now.
2007-12-21 22:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Miss TJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a boyfriend a few years back who was bipolar and schizophrenic, as well as extremely prone to drug and alcohol abuse. he never got me pregnant, thank god, but he did have to go to a mental hospital for about a month. after that, i broke up with him in a letter, and didn't answer any time he tried to contact me. it was pretty scary for a while but eventually he got recommitted and sent to a hospital in connecticut. i just had a lot of friends and family around to look out. i don't think you're in the same level of situation, but don't excuse his behavior. he may be stressed about the pregnancy but the way he's handled it is unhealthy and selfish. this isn't somebody who's ready to be a father, or a responsible partner.
2007-12-21 22:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by ldsantacruz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any relatives that live out of state where you can go for the length of your pregnacy. And make sure while you are faraway ,you can test the waters from a distance. Like long distance. He probably won't make a good candidate as a father.Don't leave him with your baby for a long period of time either. He's needs to go to anger management class and you need positive feedback from family,friends and medical personnel before you come back. GOD BLESSYOU !!!!!
2007-12-21 22:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chocolate1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to do it in a public place. I don't want to scare you with this story but it's true. When I broke up with my bipolar ex I did it by email. I know that is a very bad way to break up with someone but I was afraid for my life and I was right. She threatened to kill me and ended up get locked up in the mental ward by court order.
2007-12-21 22:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is best for yourself and that baby. SOME of the other generations are not fully aware of many of the the disorders that are out here now. There is plenty of help out there for single moms try not to get to overwelmed, it should be ok.
2007-12-21 22:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by katie k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes some men do freak out then, many men do not want to become parents with all that responsibility,some men turn dangerous he's being abusive so you should get to a shelter or other place you can be safe
2007-12-21 22:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u can do is tell him it is over on the phone and if u do it in person make sure u have a guy that can defend u and personally i think that is the best way to handle it
2007-12-21 22:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by juicy princezz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely by phone, he could lose it and hurt you badly if you did it in person. Then, watch yourself, don't be alone in public if you can help it, and don't open the door if you are home alone. If he is drinking etc, he isn't taking his meds hon, and he is a loose cannon.
2007-12-21 22:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the Happy Hotel and put him behind bulletproof glass, tell him, then run for the hills!
2007-12-21 22:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by Justin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋