15 month old not listening?

Question

My daughter is 15 months old. Latley when we tell her no, she will laugh/smile, and do it again, like she thinks its a game. I have tried redirecting her, sitting her down, swatting her hand, "spanking" her butt, but then I feel bad afterwards. I know that I'm not hitting her hard enough to hurt her physically, but I don't like thinking that I hurt her feelings either. My biggest fear is having one of those childeren you see in the stores that are out of control and the parents have no control over them. Is this just part of her age? Do most 15 month olds act out like this? Any ideas, tips, oppinions would be greatly appriciated! Thanks

Answer 1

Im in the same boat. I hate phsycial discipline. The only thing that she seems to not listen to "no" is scratching and biting. So I'm supposed to teach her not to phsycially hurt people by physically hurting her. Seems stupid. I have been trying time outs but I have to sit with her. Then I try to explain what she has done wrong.

Maybe this will work, however, this age is far too young to expect immediate results.

Answer 2

Ok first of all she is 15 months old not 3! She is still a baby. I am not critizing you I remember thinking the same thing and expecting more then I should with my first two kids. But believe me they are only capable of so much. So when she does something naughty say NO-No firmly but gently and redirect her. You can spank her hand if she is doing something dangerous, example, grabbing a hot coffee cup or touching the stove. Little ones just take lots of reminding and being consistant. You sound like you are great mother, believe me it will come with time.

Answer 3

It's OK... I have a 17 month old who stated to get really pushy around 14-15 months. I thought i was doing something wrong until i read up on it and realized that they are just testing you.

mine would laugh after i smacked her hand or gave her a serious look. so i started time out.... I know it sounds impossible and pointless but i swear by it.

people say they are to young and i disagree 100% After they do something wrong send them to time out. ( pick a place) sit her down and stand there without looking at her. if she trys to get off the stop just move them back ( most important) don;t give any facial expressions or attention other then moving them back. and keep doing it and doing it. after a few days you will be able to walk away and they will sit there. after time out is done tell her "no more timeout" with an excited voice and praise her. after a few days or a week she will catch on and they will learn that it is a bad place to be.

my daughter is 17 months no and all i have to do is say go to time out and she takes herself there and will not move until i say it is OK. she hates time out and really learns from it. I have personally taught 2 of my friends kids the same thing and they love it. Better then hitting and yelling at them.

Answer 4

My son is 3 1/2 and non verbal... he also doesn't listen and he's constantly into stuff and climbing on stuff and doing all sorts of stuff that he should not be doing. Even at 3 I won't spank him or anything and time outs have been deemed inappropriate by me and his therapists because he won't REALLY understand them at this point.

No worked when repeated about 6 times... then after about 3 million no's the work lost all effectiveness...

What seems to work for me is not using no all the time. Stop works better for us. Don't also works ok a lot of the time. I still do use no, but then my son repeats it... no no no no no no... lol...

Anyhow, a lot of it is a game for your daughter... It's her age. She's testing her limits and stuff.

Good luck to you and I hope you will find something that works :)

Answer 5

Yes, this is very common for her age. You have to be consistent and always take the time to discipline her. I don't mean with a spanking all the time. Go to where she is and stop her from what she is doing. You have to show her how to obey and show her that you mean business. If you let her get away one time, like when you're busy on the phone for example, she will figure out that there's times when she can get away with stuff. Just remember that you are the authority. Stay calm, but be firm. Set her up for success as much as possible. Show her things she CAN touch and play with.

Answer 6

This is so normal! My baby is 15 months and ignores me all the time. Sometimes it's just overstimulation, I think - there's so much to look at and do and observe that she just tunes stuff out. SOMETIMES it's a game - I'll call her name or say something to her and I'll see the little corners of her mouth curl up JUST A LITTLE BIT in a smile :)

If you really need her to pay attention just pick her up and put her on your lap. Or grab her hand. I would hesitate any sort of swatting - she'll just think its another game and eventually start to swat back ;)

Answer 7

She is 15 MONTHS old not years! She doesn't even understand the concept of "no" let alone obey it! Hitting her isn't going to do anything because she is trying to figure out why someone who is SUPPOSED to protect her would hurt her. She is a BABY not a mineature adult, I would start time outs, get down to her level, tell her why she needs to sit in time out and place her there for about a minute. When she gets out of time out again get to HER level and explain why you had her in time out. Stop expecting her to behave as an adult because it simply isn't going to happen. Her little mind doesn't assimilate information or instructions the way an adult mind does and it takes consistency (over and over and over and over) to properly discipline a child. Hitting is for those not intelligent enough to realize this is only a child...

Answer 8

My son is 15 mths previous. that's amazingly ordinary for them to not pay attention at this age. merely save being affected person and business enterprise he will at last study the policies and carry on with them. they're nevertheless little ones at this age. Spankings should not be used. I actual have the playpen set up for time outs. I oftentimes placed him in it and then i decide for a walk to the different end of the homestead and breathe and loosen up and funky down. and then we start up the NO activity back.

Answer 9

Discipline is gonna hurt her feelings, it is suppose to. It has to make enough impact for her to realize she can't do it anymore. I can't believe all the people here saying "therapist". Whose the parent here? Who is supposed to be in control? Start taking control now. Or you will really be in for it when she gets older and knows that acting upset will get you to lay off. There is nothing wrong with your daughter, she is completely normal, all 15 mth olds behave this way and this is where YOU start setting her guidelines for future behavior.

Answer 10

Discipline is never pleasant for the receiver.
Thats why they dont want to repeat the offense.Bury your feelings and DO what you KNOW is right,OTHERWISE your kid will be like those uncontrolled brats you see terrorizing wal-mart hon.Spank her butt till it hurts enough that she doesnt want another one.I know its hard, I understand what my parents meant when theyd say it hurt them to have to spank me but it was for my own good.Your daughter WILL be hurt, she WILL cry,she will be angry, BUT she WILL get over it and later love and respect you for doing the hard thing and doing what was right and disciplining her.If you dont, she will grow up not respecting you, disdaining you and will go wild and be angry that you didnt keep her out of trouble by being a wimp.