I was in an abusive relationship, and he and I started being friends...then it led to more...It was our secret, on my choice. My ex (now ex), worked for him...He wanted me to get a restraining order on him and I did not, until a year later...we have since reaquainted but do not talk about love, we just have sex. I do know he cares, I feel it but do not tell him how I feel...I prayed for this guy for a year, and now he is in the town I moved to and am scared to death of him so I sort of hide...go to work then go to bed...etc...what do i do
2007-12-21
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alicat
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i think u should talk to him
2007-12-21 14:12:35
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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If I understand correctly, the guy you were praying for is the ex with whom you were involved in the abusive relationship, and now you're afraid of him, and it's the other guy you're in love with, but you're not communicating your feelings to one another, and just having sex. I really don't know how to advise you, other than trying to be more open with the guy you care about. You need to talk to each other. As for the ex, if you feel he's a danger to you, I'd certainly get a restraining order. Sounds like you have a double problem here, so I'd suggest you work on the current relationship, and watch your step around the other.
2007-12-21 22:18:52
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answered by gldjns 7
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This is like a snarled piece of string. Really. You're having sex with your ex-boyfriend, who you're afraid to talk to about feelings--you just have sex with him. But you WANT to talk to him about feelings.
In the meantime, the ex before him was abusive and now moved into the same town you're in. Was this deliberate on his part? You prayed about him for a year--what was that all about? These people are lost causes, to be avoided at all costs and most usually irredeemable. Do you still carry a torch for him? If this person was truly an abuser, you need to turn an icy cold shoulder to him and avoid him at all costs. Forget that prayer crap and let him seek his own salvation. For you, this is jumping-off-a-cliff dangerous.
Why is the abuser in your town? Why can't you be open about your feelings with your current (not ex--don't kid yourself) boyfriend?
I think you need to be more open with us and flesh out the situation a bit more.
2007-12-21 22:29:49
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answered by Anonymous
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Who are you afraid of? Can't tell by the way you have written your story.
Anyway, if all you are doing is having sex with this guy, it is just sex. He cares about having sex. You are basically a prostitute, at least from the way you tell it.
You seem to have a hard time picking a man to have a relationship with. Maybe you should get some councilling to find out why you seek all the drama
2007-12-21 22:15:13
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answered by always b natural 7
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Well i would say u need to sit down ant talk to him.. Ask him :Do u love me, i need to know : Just to make shu u both are on the same page. If not, move on. find someone that will love u... And to your ex lover... Girl u know better then to let someone hit u... I know u may have loved him at one point. "BUT HELL NO" Stand up for your self. If he comes up to u,, Tell him to fuc* off. If he hits u or hurts u call 911 and report his ***... wish u all the luck in the world
2007-12-21 22:25:57
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answered by Mr Fla 1
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you must like abuse to go back to a man who abused, otherwise you would have left the restraining order on. and got him out of your life. areyou waiting for something worse to happen or are you going to wakeup and put a stop to it?
2007-12-21 22:17:11
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answered by Anonymous
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you should never be afraid of a guy never thats when u know u have to do something about it! go to someone tell someone who can help you through this and u shouldnt have to move bc thats not fair! but i wish the best for u and dont forget to someone i think it will help alot:]
2007-12-21 22:16:22
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answered by souljagurl 2
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dont be afraid learn to speak your mind and find out if it is truly love that he has for you because some men are just in it for the sex. so just to piggyback what i said just go for it and you may never know his response may be the one your looking for but if it is not move on because that means he only wants your goodies (hint hint: SEX)
2007-12-21 22:15:27
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answered by deja r 1
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what? i'm confuse. who's abusive and who are u in love with?
2007-12-21 22:13:15
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answered by Anonymous
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just go up and talk to him!
2007-12-21 22:14:04
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answered by Anonymous
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