why are lone parents looked down upon?

Question

i work part-time yet i always get the evil look outside the school gate , why?

who are they to judge me ?

proverb twenty 7 good for you answering in that way ,enjoy your two points merry christmasxx

proverb 7 to enlighten you most of my of points are from best answers something you are clearly trying to avoid lol !!!

proverb 7 btw it was MY question , if it hit a raw nerve with you move on plenty of other questions on y/a, lol !

and for anyone else who wants to pull apart my question , this is how i feel , i wasn't asking you to agree with me, but don't judge me on the points i 've got that is nothing to do with it btw

yes they do and these peeps are Surprisingly church goers the mind boggles xx

Answer 1

Ignore them,Bex - it's your children that matter not them!

Answer 2

Some people look down at single parents.
And these sad, small-minded folk and their opinions are not worth bothering about. Pity them and the empty, shallow lives that they lead and thank the stars in heaven that you are nothing like them.

Some of them are only with their partner because they are not strong enough to be on their own. How weak to cling in a needy way to someone else.

That you may be without partner and are bringing up a child shows just how independent and strong you really are.

Sure, a relationship may be good to be in, and if you are searching for this then I wish you well, but please always remember that you never NEED a partner.

Just look at all you have been thru without one, and you will see how much you really have got going on in your life.


So sure, those lone parents eh? Terrible people, no way to raise a child etc etc.... now I must get back to peeping out on the world behind my curtains of ignorance, so that I may continue to criticize those who I do not really know or understand, and thus build up even more fear and hatred in my stone cold empty heart.

Answer 3

I don't think there is anything wrong with a couple that never have children. To be honest, with all this talk of climate change the most environmental friendly thing you can do is not reproduce but you won't hear Al Gore saying that. I don't look at a childless couple any differently but I have noticed that they seem to have better relationships while some couples get divorced after the children can handle the situation.

Answer 4

To be honest Bex I was a bit shocked at your question because I didn't think they were these days. The problem is people are judgemental and don't stop to think about the circumstances as to why you are a lone parent. Sometimes jealousy comes into play too as they see you as being free to do what you want, especially if they are in constrictive and not so happy relationships. Hold your head high Bex and be proud of what you have achieved - raising your kids on your own and making a bloody good job of it too. xxxx

Just read what you said about the church goers Bex and that doesn't surprise me one little bit as I have found them, in the past, to be hypocrites through and through. Just think you are far better than they are Bex because at least you are sincere, unlike them!

Answer 5

I am a single mom and I dont' feel that others look down on me. The few times it has happened, it has come from suprising people. One is my family, who should support me. Instead they 'say nothing' and I can still sense the strong disagreement and the attiutde that I am doing life 'all wrong' for myself and my kids. The other place that I have sometimes felt a superior attitude towards my status, is from ex single mothers! Those who now 'have the man'. They seem to think that I have it SO hard... lol. I don't have it hard and I am not about to validate their past experiences. Maybe I don't know what I am missing, but I know what I have and it is not hard, it is alot of work and alot of happy, but certianly not 'hard, tough, and busting my bones to make things work'.

Answer 6

you should be very proud of yourself!! but i know how you feel i 2 am a single mummy but i dont care anymore as my daughter has a fantastic upbringing and sooo much love and attention - i bet the ones that look down on us wouldnt be able to do a good job like we do!!! and way i look at it now is we are happy and our children are but so many couples are unhappy in relationships! - and these people dont know the reasons why we are single and just asume that we are slappers and are on benifits! - for all they no we could be single mums cos the dad sadly died which this happened to my friend her husband had cancer an died at 28 so she is on her own with two children and when people commet about single mums this really upsets her! - people should have more respect
i totatally agree with you tho
have a great christmas

Answer 7

Bex I was a single parent for many years and I worked bloody hard in part time job to keep myself and children together. I also went to work to give my daughters a possitive role model to look up too.
I got the evil eye at school and do you know why because I was classed as the posh mom who worked!!! Can you believe that just because I wanted a better life for us all I was given the evils in fact one of my daughters was bullied because of it, A 99% of their parents did not work well that was not my fault for wanting to escape the poverty trap.
bex hold your head up girl you are doing the very best you can and giving your children a fantastic role model for their future.
I have two daughter now adults one working in proffesional job and other off to Uni not bad for a single mom I am so proud and so should you be. xx

Answer 8

You must not be gone too much. You have almost 700 points this week. You might be spending too much time in front of the computer. I didn't get how many and how old your children are. Is dad around? Are you married? There is a lot more that needs to be shared before a thoughtful answer can be given.
ADD:
My answers are not always selected as the best but generally hit a nerve and make the questioner think about issues or options. My questions to you still are unanswered.

Answer 9

Jealousy is a big problem within families. You hold down a job,keep the kids nice,have a tidy house and no-one snoring !!
A long time ago my friend had a son and asked if she could come with me to the clinic as people disapproved of her single status. The lady who weighs the babies said,quite loudly,"oh isn't he clean !?"
We were horrified that people thought he may be dirty because she was on her own -baby's dad died when she was 7 months pregnant.

Answer 10

I'm sorry to hear that people are so ignorant.

Those people who stare are probably just jealous that you can do what you do and look good doing it!

Either that, or they are just plain rude, and think that a single parent should be shunned.

I am a single mother and have a disability, and have had the opposite effect.

People praise me all the time.

Again, I'm sorry to hear you are in this situation.

Just hold your head high and know that you are the best parent you can be to your child, or children, and that is all that matters.

Answer 11

I'm single with a little girl and I work and go to school. Please just do your best and don't worry about what others are doing. I found out that some women are jealous of me because I work so hard to take care of my little girl and work and go to school. I have done everything I ever wanted to do. I have fun doing it too. It doesn't matter what anyone says about me. I live my life the way I want and work hard and have a nice, peaceful home for my little girl.