my best friend was such a sweet girl, so innocent few years ago. but now she has a boyfriend. i like the guy but i'm afraid they will have sex because of.... and we're ONLY SOPHOMORE IN HIGHSCHOOL. i feel like its soo bad and i'm so against it. i cry at times because i worry about them. i seriously cry because i don't ever want to think about it.
is having sex now... at my age.. bad?
2007-12-21 13:53:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not considered bad it's just not recommended at all! Having sex too young can be a bad thing because you have to think about your future, family, if the other person is just using you, or if you are going to stay with the other person for your life. It's good that you are worrying because it shows how much you care about her. I would let her know that you are concerned about her and let her know that it's not a good idea.
2007-12-21 14:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is growing up...maybe a little early, but certainly not as early as some CHILDREN these days. I was her age when I started having sex. I don't regret it at all and that was 10 years ago. She can still be sweet and somewhat innocent whilst having sex....having sex doesn't make you un-sweet. There is really no reason for you to cry, I mean, do you not have enough things to worry about? I'm sure if you told them you cry cause there is a possibility that they may have sex....they'd laugh at you and then do it anyway. Having sex at your age is the greatest thing ever but it isn't the most horrible either. Just talk to her about having safe sex......be there for her.
2007-12-21 14:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by BeAuTiFuLlYbRoKeN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think about it this way. It's human instinct to have sex. There's really nothing wrong with it. However, it's a personal choice and a lot of people are not emotionally ready at that age to have sex. It's ok for you to be a little disturbed that your friend is changing. You should talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. It will make you feel better. Just don't lecture her or anything because it's not your job.
2007-12-21 13:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by Desk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your business if she is having sex. As a sophomore, she's probably 15 or 16, and if she decides to have sex she's mature enough to make the decision for herself. You don't even know that they are having sex, so why are you so worried? It's not your concern.
2007-12-21 13:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's pointless for the girl, her body isn't mature enough yet to get the pleasure out of it that a fully mature woman does. then there is the possibility of pregnancy, and teens should NEVER have babies...our nation is going to hell because so many are, and have no clue how to raise the kids they've brought into the world. NO, it is not a good thing to participate in intercourse until she is mature enough to enjoy it, and mature enough to deal with all possible consequences.
That being said, you can't live her life for her. She is going to do what she wants to do regardless of what you think of it. If you are her friend, you can tell her you don't approve, but you can't judge her, and you can't tell her not to. You just have to agree to disagree on that subject, if indeed she decides to have sex.
2007-12-21 14:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its always so nice to see caring people like you. I myself would say having sex now would be a wrong decision especially when in high school. I know the needs of human and that sounds crazy if you dont go after that when you had a chance but what matters and concerns is to have a good future
There are time for everything..... including sex. That would be nice if they can think of other things to share than thinking of having sex..... just advice them to spend their time in somethin worth. I dont say sex is a waste of time but i say " it would be good to leave it until the right time"
2007-12-21 14:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Prince K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop worrying about them! It's their decision not yours! As long as they're doing it for the right reasons and use protection then whatever and a sophomore is 15 yrs old isn't it? I would say that's a bit too young but it's still their decision. You have right to voice your concerns but let them do as they want. They will have to deal with the consequences not you.
2007-12-21 13:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by echopark119 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There comes the time when you have to have sex no matter what, so let them be
2007-12-21 13:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by ADM™ is back! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why this upsets you, but it's none of your buiness. I know you wil say "Well, she's my freind"
Your friend needs to find out things for herslef. I know your just trying to protect her, but this is none of your buiness, none of your right to medle in.
If she makes the wrong descion, she will learn. I know it's hard but it's tough love.
I think 15 is a bit young, but it's their decsion, not yours.
2007-12-21 14:02:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
basically there is nothing much u can do, but u have to remember dun be influence by ur fren by getting into sex so early... please try to talk to her if u can , bu i can see that she will not listen to u ... once u have done ur part as a fren , it is enough . done get too bad abt it and there is nothing u can do to avoid that happen
2007-12-21 13:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by jinnui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋