I was w/ my bf for 2 months when he broke up w/ me. It has been almost 2 weeks since the breakup. I know 2 months isn't a very long time but I am heartbroken and miss him so much. The reason he wanted to end things was b/c things were moving very quickly and our feelings for each other were very strong in such a short amount of time. He said this really scares & overwhelms him. He is also in school ful time and works part time. Things were working great but I think it all just got too much for him and he freaked out and got scared. Before me, he had been single for over 2 years and I think being w/ me took him out of his comfort zone. He also has issues w/ women and really has his guard up (his mom is mentally ill & is very needy of him, his dad is on his 3rd marriage and they have all been gold-diggers, his ex gf of over 2.5 years cheated on him and left him for an older rich guy). So I do understand why his defenses are up.
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2007-12-21 13:52:27 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After we broke up I didn't know what to do... all I knew was I wanted him back. So I called and texted him A LOT w/ no response from him. Finally a few days ago I called again and we spoke. He said he wasn't ignoring me but he didn't know what to say. He said he really misses me and has really wanted to call me but has stopped himself from doing so. We talked for a while and made plans for that night and basically said we would try things again but take it slow. In the meantime he spoke w/ his brother and then called me and said he just couldn't do it and that if we are together he will neglect everything else in his life b/c all he wants to do is be w/ me. We talked again and he changed his mind again but then once again spoke w/ his brother and said he just couldn't. he wouldn't even agree to see me casually as he said if he sees me it will rekindle things and he will want to get back together.
2007-12-21 13:52:52 · update #1
The night we broke up he was also w/ his brother. When we were together he told me his brother said he should run b/c things were getting too serious w/ us. He & his brother are very close and I think his brother was upset by all the time I was taking up with him. I think his influence is having a HUGE impact on my ex-bf.
I googled "how to get your ex-bf back" today and found that I have been going about this all wrong. Everything I read said not to call and text and pretty much beg him for another chance. It said to LEAVE HIM COMPLETLY ALONE so that he has time to reflect and a chance away to miss me and miss the relationship.
I KNOW he feels strongly for me and we always had a great time together and the chemistry was amazing... we are both VERY attracted to each other! I is really just his fear that is standing in our way.
2007-12-21 13:53:16 · update #2
Do you think if i take this advice and give him space and not contact him anymore that he will possible want me back? It does makes sense that he knows I'm always there pine-ing away for him... he may wonder why my calls have stopped and see there is a REAL risk of losing me. (or did I do too much damage)?
Please tell me what you think....
If you're still awake.... THANKS FOR READING!!!!
2007-12-21 13:53:42 · update #3
no i dont think uv done any damage now he knows how u feel about him so now hold back for a while & let him sort out his feelings for u if they r as strong as urs he will be back dont ignore him but dont stalk him either & if u should wind up in the same place say hi & be nice if he wants to talk do but talk with ur head not ur heart kinda like u just met for the first time7if he brings up the past dont jump like a hungry dog just go slow & easy let him take the lead but dont follow to closely & if it is supposed to be, it will
2007-12-21 14:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by slapjack458 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set him free, if he comes back it is meant to be, if he doesn't you just wasted your time
2007-12-21 21:58:30 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋