I'm getting harassed and bullied?

Question

Ever since the beginning of 9th grade, I was always made fun of by this boy named Nic, the class clown. It got so bad that I would even skip school.

He would make fun of this guy that was my friend, and he'd send him threatening messages on myspace. Atleast I'm sure it was him. Though sometimes without anyone around he'd give me a highfive or would be really nice to me, which was fishy.

It's been a year now, and it still continues. This time, it's around big groups of people. And I always continue to ignore him. But that's not working. What's his problem and what can I do?

Answer 1

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like what does he call you ?

Answer 2

Well, most importantly, don't be afraid to tell someone. Your parents, first of all, then perhaps you could have a conversation with the school counselor. Until it is resolved, however, try and always be a group of your friends - not his - when you know you'll come into contact with him. Also, make sure that you are near a teacher or administrator when you are near him; this way, if he does anything too mean he will likely be punished. Don't let him catch you off guard or away from administration. Also, if he is attempting to be friendly, instead of ignoring him just be friendly back. Maybe you'll find that you even have a common interest - or maybe he'll be a great conversationalist. Either way, if he is being nice, treat him with respect and give him a chance. Maybe he was only bullying you because he doesn't have enough friends, but now he realizes that is not the way to get them.

Answer 3

Your daughter needs to go over the RA's head, to the head of the college. She should document specific instances if possible. Plain old verbal bullying is probably not technically against the college rules, but anything like stealing or physical bullying should certainly be reported, along with saying that the RA has been no help. Since she's college age it's best you weren't involved, but... to hell with whether or not the college wants helicopter parents! Be a helicopter parent and harass the daylights out of them if you have to. I actually advise against this because it's better that your daughter does it, but don't get put off by what the college "wants".

Answer 4

In high school you're not cool unless you make fun of someone. It's the sad truth of the world. But I wouldn't worry about it those kind of people don't make it far in life.

The being nice alone part is probably because he really isn't that awful of the guy and has a conscious.

Just continue to ignore him or better yet joke back with him. Make fun of yourself, it might be tough but odds are he'll do a major double take and rethink making fun of you the next time.

High school will be the hardest time of your life but it really helps build character. I know that is a long ways off, but good luck.

Answer 5

Maybe this guy likes you, but I always thought that was a funny way of showing it...puppy love I guess. Your best bet is to just keep ignoring him. Honestly, as lame as this may sound to you, talk to your teachers or principal. I know it may seem like the wrong thing to do and stupid, but it's the right thing to do. This guy needs attention and he's getting it at the cost of your feelings and your friend. The best thing you can do for him and yourself is to talk to an adult about it. It's not corny to do that. Maybe this kid needs help and he acts out at your cost and that isn't right. So talk to someone, before it gets worse. Think of all the times a kid does something drastic at a school...you could prevent it. Confronting him isn't the smartest thing because you are not sure of what he's capable of doing.

Answer 6

I lived through the same thing and now even in my adult life I still feel as if some people are bullying me.I used to try to fight back and that doesnt work because no matter how much someone can hurt me it still doesnt feel right to hurt them. So really I just came to a realization that it was gonna happen and I just avoid it .Life is what you make it , and you only make it for yourself so if somebody bullies you just let it slide , they are probably hurting bad inside anyways....

Answer 7

I had suffered this on the bus in first grade,I never forgot it,but I know first grade is nothing compared to 9th grade,but who am I to know,I am only in 6th.Any ways,I had dealt with it until I literally cracked.I had snapped back allot,but yea didn't help.Best is to try and do something about it.Try putting a tape recorder in your pocket and when the bullied you,recorded it and give it to your princible.I probully know you dont want to be a tattle-tale but the issues needs to be taken care of.

Answer 8

You are facing more than you can work it out. Seek advise from your school counselor and you parents. Tell them all about it, after all, that's a family for. One other thing, just stop using myspace, it may actually help you to cope better and leaves you more space to think and do about some other things.

Answer 9

most likely he just wants attention. since he's just doing it in front of big groups of people, its probebly for attention. there isnt much you can do but if you just ignore him then he might move onto someone else because he's not getting the attention he wants. if it doesnt stop you could always talk to a counselor or teacher about it.

Answer 10

People that harass and bully you are either jealous or scared of you. They might feel jealous because you might have something better than them that they don't have and it'll make their jealousy going away by harassing and bullying you. They might feel scared because they're afraid to get to know you and they try to make themselves feel stronger by doing what they're doing. Talk to an adult at home or at your school you can talk to your guidance counselor, school psychologist or a social worker. They can help you.

Answer 11

It sounds like he likes u and doesn't know how to show it. He's nice to u when ya alone and mean when people are around? He likes u alright. He's just afraid that he's gonna look stupid to other people. He's also bothering u so much because he wants ur attention.