I've been told by members of another forum that God couldn't possibly have a hand in our adoption because God would not "rip a child from his bio-mom" or cause the hurt & pain that is associated with adoption on the birthfamily/adoptee side. I feel completely the opposite - that our adoption was a true gift from God. It was His way of allowing us to have the family we always wanted. We refer to our adoption story as a Miracle because we believe that our son was placed with us for a reason and that his life was saved because of it. I've received a lot of criticism on this. I'm curious as to what others in this category have to think/say about it.
2007-12-21 13:29:36 · 20 answers · asked by BPD Wife 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Adoption is a scriptual concept. We are adopted into the family of Heavenly Father by the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Many children of the Old Testament were adopted. You have done a wonderful thing by giving a child a loving home. Your critics are, in my opinion, wrong totally and with malice. Don't listen to them.
2007-12-21 13:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by martha d 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No one is saying there aren’t bad adoptions, just like no one can not say that there aren’t bad birthparents.
I think it really depends for those whose birthmother/parent got coerced then no it wouldn’t have been God’s will but he allows things to happen , man has free will. However in some adoption cases I feel that it was his will, children who have parents who just cant take care of them because they have drug problems and refuse to get help, parents who are abusive, parent has died in an untimely accident or illness. etc. I have always felt that God wanted me with the family that adopted me and when I was older and learned somethings about birthmother it just affirmed that believe.
They say any situation bad or good makes a person stronger in the end.
It could also be said that God has a hand in things when adoptees or birthparents who decided to seek each other out.
2007-12-22 00:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I debate back and forth with this. Only because what are you to say about some adoptees who have adoptive parents that abusive them? Then I would have to say, no that God would not have a hand in this. For me,I could of lived with a mother that was an drug addict, but instead I got two wonderful people who would parent me. As terms of a mircale, well the adoption agency woman didn't want me adopted by two white people and we had to go to court. Long story short we went to the court house and I got adopted, that lady was in the building but never came to the court room to challenge it. So, I guess it was a mircale that she didn't come into the court room. I can't judge you or say that you are wrong thinking that your adoption story is a mircale or that God had a hand in it. This is your story and you tell it the way you want to. Don't let others tell you not to think this way or that you are wrong.
2007-12-22 10:23:37 · answer #3 · answered by a healing adoptee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
God has so many wonderful miracles in store for us, one is adoption. I think however a baby comes our way, is a gift from God and yes, His hand is in the adoption. I was brought up in a horrible familly, and could not understand this for many of years even after becoming a Christian. I do know that God can take any life and heal and deliver the person so that they know and experience true happiness and fulfillment. Whether we suffer or not as a child, God can bring us out and give us joy and peace.
2007-12-21 23:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to answer "yes" when so many adopted children end up in abusive homes. The God I believe in would never harm a child. Based on that, I guess I'd have to say that I don't believe God has a hand in the adoption of children (in general).
It's hard for me to get my head around God "saving one child" while allowing another to die. I realized a long time ago that God does not necessarily change things in my life. He is, however, always there to help me through whatever comes my way.
That is not to say that He didn't have a hand in YOUR family. I do believe God answers our prayers, though not always as we'd like Him to.
2007-12-21 23:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Robin 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
You know our God would have a world where there are no children without a parent and no woman without her own child, but you and i both know that's not the world we as humans chose.
Instead we always seem to go against what God would have us do and make a mess of our lives and then proceed to blame it on him.
Just like with several other things, God has rules and regulations to regulate the problems that he knew mankind would face once we decided we wanted evil to be very prominant in our lives.
As far as you adopting a child with the permission of the mother, here's what I believe God and Christ would say, Love thy neighbor as thyself. If you would consent to giving your child away to someone else, then you should expect that someone would do that for you, and also if you would want someone to adopt you in order to save your life then you should adopt someone in order to save theirs.
The answer to this question resides with you. As long as you have acted in the best interest of everyone then you have done a good thing in the eyes of God and Christ.
2007-12-21 22:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you.
My brother has an adopted son and we fully believe it is because of the hand of the Lord.
His mother had two other children, one of which she had given for adoption. The mother of the adopted child contacted my brother when the mother was going to have another child and asked if he and his wife were interested in adopting the unborn child.
They said yes and adopted my nephew before he was born. He is now 7 years old and fits in this family as if he were born into it (as by God, he was!)
God bless you and your son and family
Merry Christmas
2007-12-21 21:39:19 · answer #7 · answered by Molly 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My friend and his wife take in foster kids who were abused adoptees, so I think one cancels the other.
One was a teen girl who was raped by her adoptive father and had a child at 15. They took in both and Tina finally overcame her fears (she wouldn't even go outside at first) and is now doing well in college. Another was a biracial boy who was tortured with cigarettes while an infant. All of these kids were found via religious agencies. But my friends are different: Good folks.
2007-12-21 21:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Most children are not ripped from their bio-mom,,,their
mom,s might give them up or not want them,,they may
be in a violet family,or their parent,s may be dead
in any case I agree with you,,God place,s children with
family,s who love them and be safe,,thank you for caring
enough about a lost child.
2007-12-21 21:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by elaine 30705 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
God alone knows the beginning from the end. Everything is purposed and God controlled the circumstances which directs our paths. All things work together for good to them that love God and are called according to his purpose. Remember, not one will be lost.
2007-12-21 21:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Overseer 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋