My hubby and I are having our annual Christmas Party. I just have one question that bugs me. Each year, we have so many people who never RSVP (even tho we list a request for it by a certain date). Don't people realize that when you are having a party, you need a general idea of how many people to expect so you can prepare snacks and food? To me, it's just common courtesy. I have no clue how many people to expect, and my party is tomorrow. Last year was just the same, and we ran out of snacks and had to run out to the store during the party. It just irritates me. Why doesn't anyone RSVP?
2007-12-21 13:08:14 · 8 answers · asked by SusieQ 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I was raised by my parents to respect all invitations of any kind because that means the person cares enough to invite you.
You must call up and say whether you are coming or not within a week or two before the party so that way you will have time to prepare and count.
You sound nice, and kind but this stuff goes on by people who have no morals or respect. No one just "forgets" a party --they just don't care to respond.
It's not just fair--you are preparing months in advance, getting the food, taking days off work to clean house, cook, prepare, plan and most likely rent tables and chairs and a total losers decide not to call and show up---ugh.
2007-12-21 13:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they're just inconsiderate and they're probably not even sure that they'll be attending, so they leave the door open and think that if they make it last minute and show up without a previous confirmation you'll still let them in......
What I'd do is prepare snacks and food for the people who DO RSVP and a little bit more....... and buy several extra bags of chips or pretzels or peanuts or whatever you prefer and some sodas perhaps. When the rest of the snacks & drinks are finished, you take these extras out and throw a comment here and there to ppl who did NOT RSVP: "darn, I wish I had cooked enough foor for everyone, but since most people didn't confirm I had no idea how many ppl would be coming"................. that should give them the hint that they're not being hosted properly because of their OWN attitude and lack of consideration.
2007-12-21 13:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought based on an invite I just received - how do have the RSVP listed? Using "Regrets only" lets you assume that everyone on your list is coming unless they rsvp. I'm sure it's still not fail proof!
Good luck with the food, have a wonderful time!
Merry Christmas!
2007-12-21 13:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by girlb00 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either they assume you know there coming, or feel they don't want to commit. Either way I'd have a list at the door and start turning people away. That'll teach em!
2007-12-21 13:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by mutant_blonde 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guilty of not doing it myself
Then it leaves you in a bind, I know.
I'm planning a Christmas Caroling trip tomorrow night and no one has called to confirm even though several have said they will probably go.................guess I'm just getting mine back:(
2007-12-21 13:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
people forget and people just aren't always sure what they will be doing...if i were you though, I would just prepare for the worst and buy like crazy...worst that happens is that you have lots of extra snacks in your pantry
2007-12-21 13:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
General laziness probably. They might think it's not so important, or they might simply forget.
2007-12-21 13:11:04 · answer #7 · answered by battlescar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They want to leave it open incase something better comes along
2007-12-21 13:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋