i screwed up and lost a guy that actually really liked me?

Question

i screwed up and now he brokeup with me. a guy who actually really likes me(i didnt cheat on him) and i like him. he couldnt even hang up the phone and i said why and he said because "i still love u". but he doesnt trust me! and i hate the fact that i screwed up and i lost him im so sorry! now all we can be is friends and it would be so much easier if he just said i hate u and i dont love u or even like u but its so much harder when both of u still love each other. i feel like dieing really i always screw up in life not just guys whats the point? im not going to commit suicide but i just feel like dieing!

Answer 1

Apologize.

Answer 2

nthins wrong with being a virgin rly the only reason guys are like that is because 1.yu might be a little inexperienced 2.they say it hurts the first time-it does a little but its a good pain and anyways after the first time it doesnt anymore really to tell you the truth i see nothing wrong with dating a virgin-really in a few years anyway guys will be looking for personality more than anything EDIT:although if you want kids you either have to have sex or be artificially incminated-i would probably take the first option cause it feels nice and you at least know the person a little you might want to lose it now you might not- it all depends on what you want if a guy pressures you in any way-dump him and tell him to **** over some porn-that'll sort him out

Answer 3

I am very glad to hear that you do not intend to commit suicide in spite of the obvious pain you are currently feeling. While I sympathize with you , I do not understand why you broke up with a man who still loves you and you love him. You say you did not cheat on him but you also say you screwed up and not only in dating but in life generally. I truly wish you had given us more information so that we could have suggested possible ways for you guys to get back together.I am a firm believer in the fact that every problem has a solution, and your situation is no exception to that belief. However, since you did not give any information to help you guys, I suggest and hope that you guys will find a way to stay together. You deserve to be back in each others arms.Good luck.

Answer 4

Lots of people screw up and it isn't the end of the world or even a relationship. It takes time and effort to recover, though. Do you want to? You need to seek forgiveness from him, and that's a three step process: confess, atone, repent. There's no guarantee of success, but this is what you do if you want to give it the best shot. You have to honestly admit face-to-face your part in whatever happened, that's confession. Then you have to repay/repair whatever was damaged--that's atonement. It's difficult to do that in a relationship, and usually entails allowing the other to check up on you. Under normal circumstances, that would be considered abusively controlling, but this is different. It's a matter of rebuilding trust by PERMITTING him to have this degree of control. I don't know what you did but this is generic advice that even applies to cheating on a spouse. Finally, you must repent. Figure out what it is that went wrong and how you have to change yourself in order to turn your back on that destructive behavior. That's no guarantee you won't slip up again, but---well, practice makes perfect.

If you really like him and he really likes you, and you're willing to take responsibility for your part (and only YOUR part) in what happened, give it a try. Tell him that you know you hurt him/disappointed him/whatever and you want to try to learn from it if he'll let you.

All you can do is learn. It'll clear the air between the two of you, but he's under no obligation to forgive what happened. Forgiveness is completely voluntary; it has to be. If it's difficult for him to do, you have to accept that without blaming him.

Answer 5

well i am going through the same situation, except i am in your guy's position. my ex did some things that i could not forgive or forget, so i had to end it because i did not trust her love anymore. it sucks because i still care about her and love her, but i don't feel like being with her is healthy because she basically "fell out of love" with me for a short period, where she went and slept with an ex, then all of a sudden wanted me back when she saw i was moving on. it's hard for him because, i dunno what u did, but he still has feelings for u, but he's trying to do the harder thing that will in the end make him better. you should not have ****** up. all you can do is apologize and be nice to him and hope he forgives you, but i would not count on it. just learn from your mistake and don't do it next time. fatal mistakes can lead to the loss of a soulmate, so just don't give into your feminine instincts, which usually leads women to acts of stupidity that they later regret.

listen to the song "apologize" by one republic-its probably how he is feeling.

Answer 6

i know the feeling your going through right now... just relax (as hard as that may seem) and take a deep breath. Maybe you guys will get back togeather if it was real love. best to ya

Answer 7

Apologize sincerely and see what happens. Promise you won't make that mistake again, and mean it. Sometimes the simplest things are the hardest to do. Good luck.

Answer 8

Yea, I know how you feel I let a girl go that probably liked me (I definitely liked her) because I was too much of a coward to ask her on a date.

Answer 9

calm down missy... i may not know how badly that feels like but all i can advice is, when a door closed on you, two doors will be open after that. i know it may sound bullshit but somehow its true when you stop thinking about it and look forward. when you stop thinking about it, u'll realize all the things that you have missing out.

Answer 10

so u finally went with ur ex huh?
read some of ur questions b4 dis and,u still love ur ex