Although I have gone on maybe two dates in my entire life, I feel that it may be time to give it a try again now that I will have some more time. I haven't tried it since I was 23 years old about 5 years ago. It's pretty scary getting back into the "game" but it is kind of exciting as well. I still have a lot to look forward to: my first girlfriend, my first kiss etc. While some people tell me I have started much too late, I have so much more to look forward to than they do. I also have a lot to offer a woman! I am employed full time, I am educated, I am secure financially and I live at home with my parents and other adult siblings, which indicates that I am a family man :-) . The question I have though is this: Why do I encounter so much jealousy regarding my situation? More people actually mock it than respect it. I don't want praise but I don't understand the mockery, especially from girls my age. Clearly they are jealous for some reason or they wouldn't make the comments.
2007-12-21 12:08:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And for those who may be wondering, yes, my parents still cook for me, do my laundry and pay most of the bills (car, insurance, etc.). It's the least they can do after all the years of joy I gave them in raising me! LOL, they get a kick out of that when I tell them that. They are so happy that we all get along and said we can stay as long as we want to. Do I realize they won't be around forever? Of course I do and that's only another reason I want to stay as long as I can. Plus, all the things they do for us -- my siblings and I know how to do. Our parents just don't want us to struggle while we are still going to school and getting started in a career. Who would want to leave in this situation?
2007-12-21 12:08:49 · update #1
If a person wants to, then sure they can date.
2007-12-21 12:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is just as nutty as it was the first time you asked it.
No one is jealous. Living at home with mom at age 28 doesn't show you are a family man it shows you are immature and dependent. Most girls will expect a man who is educated and financially stable to have made the break from the family, they will expect some privacy with you when you are dating, they will want to be able to visit you in your home for intimate moments. Move out and make the break, then find a girl.
Same answer, it will always be the same answer.
2007-12-21 12:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by SkyLights90N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But you're 28, leave the nest or else you won't succeed in the dating scene. That's great you love your family, but you don't have to live with them to show that you're a family man. Then you have the nerve to say your mom still cooks, clean, and do your laundry, that's not attractive for someone who is about to be 30. Sorry not trying to be mean, I'm just letting you know how others will see it.
2007-12-21 12:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by tc22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I'm not judging you, but living at home definately has an impact on your overall developmental growth as an adult. If you don't support yourself, you can't explore the freedom of being a man. Women are attracted to men who are not only educated, employed etc. but are indepedant.
If your parents are taking care of everything then you aren't standing on your own two feet (choice or not). Sorry to say it but no woman wants a momma's boy. It's time to leave the nest. Otherwise you'll never learn to take care of yourself. You won't regret it.
2007-12-21 12:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by hmmm... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't encounter any jealousy. Nobody is jealous of you. I had a girl show me her stuff at 5. First kiss at 10, laid at 15, cohabitation with a woman at 24. How many times are you going to post this before you get the picture?
2007-12-21 12:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different.We are all ready to seriously date at different ages...and I think thats fine.Im so glad that theres diversity, and not everyone follows like sheep....I am in my late thirties.....and I would find a settled man, in this sense apealing....someone who has not ran around town...can also be viewed as reliable and trustworthy, and stable emotionally...I do not think other girls are jealous, I think its that they just do not understand you....and sometimes when we do not understand something/someone we riducle it/them through ignorance....if you find a woman who does understand all your wise reasons for waiting till now, then this will be beneficial for you both....eventually you will want to move out and move on, but you must do so when you are ready, not when someone else dictates it to you.You are an adult and have the right to decide for yourself what you do and do not want....and that includes when to date and who to date with your discretion.I do not think that you have chosen this situation without thinking hard first.
2007-12-21 12:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweetheart serious answer time Age is but a number, but what is he looking for, what are you looking for, is he looking for a yummy mummy figure are you looking for a stud? or a god. don't take offence cos I am being honest as I have a friend in the same position as you and she is just as confused as you are and she is the same age 42 and she looks in her late 20s and then I ask myself why does she hang around with a bloke like me at my age 53 and I have my kids,cos she doesn't want any, hates kids completely yet this young lad fancies the socks off of her. Why, cos she is stunning and sexy and articulate and clever, but whenever I am up the pub with my son she is straight over to me and I am the most ordinary looking bloke in the world, this is confusing to her as well, why , cos she feels safe with me, there is an element of danger with this young lad that frightens her. Are you frightened too, does the thought of you being 12 years older than him worry you, cos if it does then that is going to eat away at you like a dog with a bone and it will destroy anything you have because you will literally become the "old woman" do you get what I am trying to say to you, but age is but a number. if you want to discuss this any more you can mail me on here I will always answer. Good luck sweetheart in whatever you decide to do and take care
2016-05-25 08:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I'm almost 29 and I am dating.. 28 is quite late for the first kiss, but it is ok.. My GF says she was 24 when she got hers.
Yeah, and I still live with parents and they cook the food.. I pay most of the bills though.
You can be a family man or you can be a spoiled child who cannot pick up after himself.
2007-12-21 12:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Aleks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude no one is jealous of you, and women do not like mommas boys. you are 28 years old and living with mommy and daddy- pitiful thats what you truely are. if you are going to start dating i would keep it a secret that you still live at home, it will be a major handicap for your dating life. its time to grow up and live your own life and quit letting mommy take care of you.
2007-12-21 12:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should try going on craigsw list put what you are like what you look like and your email youll pobably get a lot of responses but then just talk to the ppl you like and the people that live near you and hopefully you can get a date
2007-12-21 12:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by Elena R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE OUT
Your 28, Your parents are ever wodering if your going to live on yourown if you're going to survive on your own.
People are not jeaulous of you. I would be sort of feel pity for you because you cannot live on yourself and make your parents do you living duties such as cooking.
2007-12-21 12:13:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋