has anyone ever done anything so nice for you that you just want to cry ?
a friend has just offered to do something for me , and although I feel strange agreeing ... I am blown away by her generosity and kindness
I am in an awkward position though
I dont want her to do this for me , but she is doing it out of the kindness of her heart .... and I feel bad saying no , yet feel bad saying yes
what do you do at times like this ?
I need advice
accept it with love ? .... or say no because I dont want to put her out ?
2007-12-21 12:07:42 · 44 answers · asked by ☮ Pangel ☮ 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
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2007-12-21 12:23:33 · update #1
Many times I have been reduced to tears. Accept it with the love it was offered and given. Sometimes the best gift one can receive for Christmas is yes. Great now I am crying.
2007-12-21 12:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Yes - sometime before my husband and I got married, we experienced a bit of a money problem. We've always been used barely getting by, but this time we were going to be evicted from our apartment, among other things. My husband (fiance at the time) had just switched jobs, and I was a full-time student, so we didn't know how we were going to come up with the money. My grandparents found out about our situation through my parents, and the next time we visited them, they gave us the money to get caught up on the rent. They are poor, too, but they gave us all the money they had to help us get by. I was really touched and appreciative that they would do something so generous for us. When we got back on our feet, they wouldn't let us pay them back, so we at least got them some groceries to help out a little bit. They've always been generous people, but that time I remember best because it was when we were in our greatest need. I won't ever forget it.
Oh, I feel silly...I just now read the details to your question. :) If I were you, I would accept it with love. Hopefully this person wouldn't offer anything to you that he/she wasn't able to give, and you mean enough to them for them to be so generous. I hope this and my own experience helps. :)
2007-12-21 16:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Persephone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should always accept an act of kindness with grace and gratitude. Anyone making such an offer does so because they want very much for it to be accepted. Try to find a way of doing something nice back to her in future. That way a virtuous circle is started and everyone wins.
Peace.
2007-12-21 12:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honor the generosity of your friend by graciously and gratefully accepting. A person generally doesn't make an offer like that without truly wanting you to take it. You'll both feel good about it.
2007-12-21 12:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Oh I was thinking someone had done an action in a bad way and I was answering YES.
But in your situation, accept it with the love she offered it in.
Its hard but this is where she gets to experience that joy and growth. Just like we do when we assist others.
2007-12-21 12:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by ChaosNJoy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My family was just given something wonderful that we too feel we should not accept, however I thank God for these people, because they encouraged my family and I just at the right time. I did not want to either, however, I realized that it is their joy in giving it, and if we refused it we would be wrong, because it was offered in love. Kind of reminds me of what Christ did for me, I know that His dying on the cross, was my payment for sin, and I certainly did not deserve that but no accepting it would hurt me for eternity, and also Jesus because He loved the whole world enough to die for it.
2007-12-21 12:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Nothing reduces me to tears faster than kindness when I really need it!
Will your friend's offer hurt her in any way? If not, then accept it. Don't deny her a blessing (yeah, we Christians do think that way). And, learning to accept help graciously is a mark of maturity and humility.
I have NO doubt you have blessed your friend by giving to her, and will again.
2007-12-21 14:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you were going to be putting your friend out, she would not have offered. It's a common misconception that we must refuse help when it is offered. I think it would be ridiculous to tell your friend, no, I don't want your help because it would be "putting you out." What help doesn't take a little effort or sacrifice? That is not, however, putting someone out.
If it is something you would do for her, if you had the ability, then you should not insult her by saying no.
2007-12-21 12:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix: Princess of Cupcakes 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
since i was in my teens i doubt that a year has passed without at least one person offering me an unexpected kindness so generous that it brought tears to my eyes.
(i don't full on cry. i am a guy. i am really tough).
i never turn a kindness away - even when it is one i don't need (or even want).
when someone does you that much good they obligate you to treat them well in the future. i cherish being obliged to people.
2007-12-21 23:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by synopsis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I've gotten by with a little help from my friends and even just a kind word that was well placed from a stranger.
If you accept, Pay It Forward.
2007-12-21 12:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by ... 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋