i went to my bf's house for our first date. we were snuggled up and pulling and things but then he tried to take off my bra. i said no and he appologised but then he later dumped me because he said he wanted a more forward relationship. now i feel really stupid for saying no and just wish i had let it happen. what shall i do?
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2007-12-21 10:30:38 · 9 answers · asked by butterfly_bell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bdw... im only 15
2007-12-21 10:40:03 · update #1
DO NOT FEEL BAD. You did the right thing. I can not see why any girl would do anything like that on a first date with a guy. If you have sex on the first date, then what will he try to push on you in the future? Never do anything like that on the first date. At most kiss him.
Don't let any guy ever make you do anything you don't want to. On the first date or the 100th. You did the right thing. He's not the right guy anyway.
What's a more forward relationship?
And don't ever have a guy over to your house on a first date. It leads a guy to thinking you want that. Go somewhere out in public, especially if you don't know him that well.
2007-12-21 10:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you say no? There WAS a reason. You didn't say it for nothing. Maybe because you weren't ready for it? Which is perfectly OK. You don't have to put out on the first date in order for a guy to hang around. Maybe for this guy you do but not for all guys. The only reason to regret this is if it was something that you wanted to have happen, you would have preferred to do it this way rather than getting to know each other better first. Otherwise it's better to wait for a guy who can take it at your pace, who works better with you. And you CAN find one.
2007-12-21 18:40:39 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. A guy who doesn't respect a women's body or " God's Holy Temple" is not NOT worth having. Guys who don't respect you or your beliefs are not right for any women. No, no you should not have let it go on, you need to move on honey, and find a man who really loves you and wants to have a real relationship.
2007-12-21 18:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to clear up a few things for you. First he was not your boyfriend, if you were only on your first date. Second, you were only on your first date, since he was trying to feel you up that shows that that's all he wanted to do with you.
He would've dumped you either way, better for you that you didn't do what he wanted you to do because you would've felt worse after he dumped you.
2007-12-21 18:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Quest4questions 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL u made a good choice...because a boy who like u or LOVES U should wait when ur ready.im pround of u.(even though i dnt know u but its nice to see that there is still good girls around the world)
honey 4 get about him.find ur self a bf that will wait 4 u...
2007-12-21 18:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont feel bad or stupid. You werent ready for it, and he should not have dumped you over it. You shouldnt have sex just to make your bf happy.
2007-12-21 18:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Zach D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should thank God that you are rid of him.
You are better than someone who sleeps with a boy just to keep them
2007-12-21 18:34:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♫♪Bag♫♪ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forget him, he can go find himself a s l u t.
2007-12-21 18:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by EmoEyelinerEyes 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
too get over him all he probably wanted was sex from u!
2007-12-21 18:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by cheaa 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋