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Im at uni and have a pt job but its not enough.
has anyone done this job, is it hard? does it mess you up?

2007-12-21 09:49:21 · 19 answers · asked by Patricia 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

19 answers

If the choice is "Strip" or "Eviction" - shouldn't it be clear which one wins out?

But if you feel this is MORALLY wrong, then you need to find a more suitable (though less paying) way to make ends meet ;);)

2007-12-21 10:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0 2

I think there's a definite difference between a 'stripper' and 'pole dancer' , but both jobs need serious consideration, before you enter into applying.

Attending Uni, can be a difficult financial period, and it's not made any easier by the pressure and stresses of study and exams.

Going for added income in this line of work, I feel will put a lot more stress, anxiety, and pressure on you, not to mention the tiredness, and inability to concentrate.
You will probably have to work late hours, and of course there's the whole. family/friends issues to deal with, have you discussed this with them ? and if not, what would happen if by chance, someone you knew came into your new place of work ?.

As you have a part time job already, or there no more 'few' hours that they can add on for you, or can you look for something else. Maybe using your skills on a PC, (doing some typing for a company) or week-end work, in a Department Store, Bowling Alley, Movie theatre, local barwork, hair/beauty salon or gaining some practical skills in what you're presently studying, etc.

Don't go this far with your education, to mess it up now. You've worked so hard to get into University, and studied hard to stay there.

Just give yourself a while to think this through, I'm sure you'll come up with a better alternative.

Best wishes for your future...

sincerely, a friend x

2007-12-21 10:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by CARAMAC 5 · 1 0

I dont think you should do it. There are other ways to make money. You could try and get another part-time job. It could mess you up if you get involved on the bad side. I mean starting to drink, use drugs, sleeping with people at the club. But if you feel like this is the only way that you are can make ends meet then go ahead and do it but be careful.

2007-12-21 10:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 2 0

Hi,

I am so glad you are asking this question before you do it. You are asking because you already know it is wrong. Perhaps you know some girls that are already doing it and it looks like a great way to make money.

Something is already telling you that it is not only wrong, but that is does change you and will change you.

If you are the kind of person who doesn't care about themselves, their reputation or their future, then it sure is a good way to make quick money.

If you don't care that you expose yourself to the kinds of men who mostly relate to getting womens attention by paying for it, then go ahead, you will enjoy yourself with these kinds of unsensitive, impersonal men who only want to look at and be around women with nice bodies.

If you like being consumed and tempted by these kinds of men to go a lot further and to treat sex as an act to get money, you will really love it.

If you don't want to have warm, caring love in your life, selling your body off for money is just great.

If you ever decide to stop and have a real life with a real nice guy, you will be looking over your shoulder each and every day hoping that some guy who you "took some extra money " from will not come over and harass you when you are with your new man.

By the way, your heart will become so cold from being with cold men paying you for your time that you will probably find a nice guy boring and uninteresting.

2007-12-21 10:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by roatanbruce 2 · 0 1

It really depends on how mentally strong you are.

It is hard to not become as cynical, moneygrubbing, hard and drug/alcohol addicted as some of the dancers are. You need to be a little scrappy (not afraid of a scuffle or argument) because the women can be real jealous clicquish bitches. And you need to have a thick skin and a good head on your shoulders to deal with the men and be sweet enough to make $ but smart enough to keep them in their place.

2007-12-21 09:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 2 0

To be happy in life we need several things

The ability to feed ourselves.
retain our dignity and self respect
To love ourselves in a rounded and sound way,
and to be a roll model for our children or those who should be able to look up to us.

Sometimes, just times times we feel forced to do things we are later ashamed of. Thats when we pay the price for those decisions.

I wish you well with your decisions.

2007-12-21 10:01:22 · answer #6 · answered by Muleman 3 · 2 1

I did stripping and lap dancing at a friends club for quite a while. Its a really fun job but you do get some freaks and perverts.

2007-12-21 09:56:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kate; 4 · 2 2

listen, you gotta do waht you gotta do to make ends meet! if wont mess you up unless who join in with all the drugs, so dont.


and stay strong! good luck

2007-12-21 09:54:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3 1

My best friend has and she is not messed up.. if you feel like it the right thing to do for now then do it!

no its not hard... well maybe the pole tricks might be hard at 1st!

2007-12-21 09:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by ms_shawtie05 2 · 2 2

look at it this way,how much do you value your dignity?.there are loads of jobs out there you can do,where you keep your self respect,keep your high standards and walk with your head up

2007-12-21 10:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by josephrob2003 7 · 3 1

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