I met a cool girl at work, not same feild same bldg, we seem to hit it off, then the I have a boyfreind, ugh, but he lives out of town. I just wanted to hang out with her platonically, or is that a sub-conscice ploy, anyway come to my gym I say, where's your gym she says. Then I text her my email for her to let me no when she wants to meet. 7-days goes by. Then She calls, but asks a business related Q. Before she hangs up I let her know that I am pissed that she didn't respond, not even a sorry, (explanation) just nothing. But she says don't take it personal. What say u, can men and women get along outside of a sexual relationship as freinds or not, I lean towards not.
2007-12-21 09:43:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok people when I say be freinds, I don't mean hello goodbye freinds, I mean let's catch a movie or go to the gym or get dinner freinds. Some of you answers seem to think that I mean freinds as in being sociably polite, I mean life-long freinds involved in each others life.
2007-12-21 10:15:08 · update #1
The simple answer to your question is YES.However, it depends on the people. There is always a sexual tension between men and women even platonic friends.It would appear that you sub-consciously wanted more from your friend based on your reaction to completely innocent circumstances and occurrences. Look at the following:1) your reaction to the fact that she has a boyfriend even a guy who is out of town2)You ask her to your gym rather than a neutral location3)Although you work in the same building, you email her(to make it more personal), say nothing to her for 7days when she did not respond but stew inside, then get offended whe she says not to take it personally.Since this woman has made her romantic situation clear to you, it would seem that you are attracted to her and hoped that you could win her over especially with an out of town boyfriend.Your line that you don't think men and women can be just platonic friends cements that fact. You appear to have one of two choices----accept her as a platonic friend and co-worker or as simply a co-worker.
2007-12-21 10:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my best friends are women. My g/f knew this when I got with her 4 years ago. Luckily she's not a jealous person and neither am I. I feel that if yr in a mindset when you think the only relationship you can have with a woman is sexual/romantic, your more likely to have the desire to break your partners trust. On the other hand, if your open about having friendships with the opposite sex with your partner you'll both see that we live in a world full of many interesting fellow human beings just waiting to be your friend! Why limit yourself to just male friends?
2007-12-21 18:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ruairi G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ... but it depends on the person. I personally have been best friends with a guy for almost 15 years now. We have never been a couple and we have never been romantic. We are the best of friends and I am getting married to someone else and he is with a girl he is serious about.
So yes ... it's possible if you really just want to be friends.
2007-12-21 17:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Stephmeister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. I heard of this guy who knows a girl who swears she's heard a story where it really happened.
Seriously, it can happen but it needs seriously mature relationships. With teenagers who think every minute detail changes the entire world, it doesn't happen because they can't show the required distance and calm to see things in perspective.
2007-12-21 17:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I have tons of female friends, some of whom are single, some dating, and some married. If you can really learn to appreciate someone as a friend regardless of gender, you aren't even going to see them as anything but just that, a good friend. I wouldn't wanna bang some of my closest guy friends, why is it assumed that I would my female friends?
2007-12-21 17:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that men and women can be friends out side of a relationship, but you have to remember that there is pressure when your friends with the opposite sex and the only way to become and stay good friends is to not talk to each other everyday. no going to lunch, gym etc. and everything will turn out fine.
2007-12-21 17:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by butta 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, because all the girls you think are friends, you'd still bang them if you had a chance.
2007-12-21 17:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by James Dean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anybody can be friends with anybody regardless of age, sex, race, sexual orientation, etc.
2007-12-21 17:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by thegillitine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure. i have more male friends than female, and i'm married and faithful to my husband.
2007-12-21 17:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leanr to spell and ya of course they can be friends
2007-12-21 17:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋