Well i like this guy and i asked him out 4 or 5 weeks ago and he hasn't answered. i feel bad when i think about him and i feel like im doing something wrong. i try to look pretty for him but i feel like he dosent care. We hardly ever talk any more, and when we do its so awkward. all my friends tell me to stop liking him hes a bad person, but i cant! i just cant tear myself away. because every time i think about him i think of all the cute things hes done and block out the bad. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what should i do?!?!
2007-12-21 08:30:25 · 25 answers · asked by Erin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your obsessing on him, that is a very bad thing. Go out find others get over him
2007-12-21 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A LOT of girls go for the 'bad boy' type -- the guy we know is SO bad for us, but it just makes us want them more. Too many women don't learn until they're much older that what they REALLY want is the funny nice guy that's been there for them through all the self-imposed heartache while they chased the guy who was bound to keep hurting them.
Nip it in the bud, so you don't waste time and get hurt. Make a list of the 'cute' things he's done and the reasons you like him on one side of the paper, and a list of the reasons he's not good for you on the other. Then compare the two columns. Hopefully you'll see that the bad outweighs the good, and realize that you probably want him so badly because he DOESN'T want you. Thrill of the chase and all that.
The number one thing on your list of reasons to forget him should be that your friends think he's a bad person. If only ONE friend thought that, I'd say maybe she's wrong, but all of them?? Steer clear of this guy! Friends can see things that you can't see (because you're blinded by love or lust or infatuation), and they almost ALWAYS are right.
Reason number two should be that he's not interested. He would've said yes when you asked him out if he was. If he's not interested in you and has to be CONVINCED to wanna date you, then trust me, he's not a good match.
Hang that list of bad stuff on your mirror and read it often. You deserve better than him. Good luck!
2007-12-21 08:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Cycloppety-Clops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound perfect for an abusive relationship, and if you don't fix whatever the problem is you will find one. The guy you are chasing is also stupid for not seeing this in you, either to help or mistreat you. The cute things he's done are a facade to get what he wants. Have I helped?? Heed the word of old player... If you are ever out west.....
Be Well
2007-12-21 08:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Eugene_Saigon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you have to think about in order to make a decision on what to do is honestly look at how he's treating you RIGHT NOW. When a man is interested, he WILL let you know - bottom line. When a man wants something, he will do what he has to in order to get it. It isn't easy, but move forward. "Just like fishing in an ocean, there'll always be someone new"
2007-12-21 08:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in my experience, when all your friends think the person you're interested in is a jerk. In hindsight, without exception they were.
Listen to your friends they only have your best interests in mind, and you clearly cant see things straight when it comes to this guy.
You might want to ask yourself why are you so hung up on this one guy when there are 3 billion other potential great guys out there? Sounds like you're a bit insecure (not said to be insulting)
2007-12-21 08:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Nick A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your friends and just get over it and move on. Look it's been over a month and he hasnt answered you. You should never try to dress just to impress a guy. Guys always know when you are not being yourself so just be you. stop acting fake and be yourself. Obviously he doesnt care so just let it go. You sound young and you have your whole life ahead of you.
2007-12-21 08:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by luvcaramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well, when we like somebody, we can't see their mistakes, but girl! for god's sake have some dignity! If you already asked him out and he doesn't even have the courtesy to say "I can't" or "No thanks" then why are you still trying to get noticed by him? I understand your situation but remember that there are millions of guys out there! And instead of trying to get his attention, why don't you try to meet some other guy? I think that right here you are hurting yourself for a guy that doesn't deserve you! Or you think that after what he has done, he does?
And you'll see that in a future you'll say like "I liked THAT guy? I was crazy!" And you'll see that he wasn't that great after all.
Hope I helped!
2007-12-21 08:37:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one says he's bad, what do they know him personnally, It really makes me wonder how about you? sometimes people give the wrong advice and when it come to someone else's love or a career choice everyone has the answers, all I can say is if I listened to what everyone else wanted me to do then what would be the point in me being me! You dicide what is best for you.
2007-12-21 08:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he probobly hasant answered because he dosent feel the same about you as you do of him...i would let it cool down a little more, and eventually the awkwardness will go away. And no, you are not doing anything wrong, and its not your fault you liked him. Hope this helped :]
2007-12-21 08:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by Elana A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think that you should give up on him or anything because i was in a situation like this once and the guy tld me that he would go out with me after he broke up with his girlfriend and that took about a month and a half because he didn't want to break her heart but he really liked me. And then the girl that he was dating found out that he liked me and that he was gonna go out with me after he broke up with her so she broke up with him and like an hour later he asked me out and I said yes and we are together to this day. Maybe he is like my boyfriend and he has a girlfriend and is just trying to break up with her. HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT! :-h
2007-12-21 08:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Maddieeliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋