I cannot give up on her! What should I do?

Question

I am a college student, and I met this girl from a club organization. We are both premeds while she is in her third year and I am in second.

We have been friends for about 2 months, and we went out once. She was not doing well in her classes, but she made a time for me. Since she was extremely busy, she couldn't go out anymore. I asked her out like twice, but she declined them all, because she was so frustrated with her study. Before I didn't know thiss, I thought that was over, but every time when I was asking her to study with me, she always said yes. After study, we had dinner together at campus many times.

There was one time when I could kiss her. Every single condition was just perfect. But I was just a complete idiot and a coward, so I couldn't. Perhaps I couldn't do this because she was too special for me.

On the day before her final, I just spent more than 2 hours to answer her question in organic chemistry, so she could ace the final exam.

Then I asked her when is the final, and she asked why, so I honestly asked her to go out and have a dinner with me before she goes to party, but she made excuses that she has to clean her apartment before she go back to her hometown and declined. After this, I guess she felt little sorry, so she called me again to ask another question on organic chem and started talking to me for about 10 minutes, and this was my last contact with her.

So, this is the third time rejection. I am so confused and frustrated, and I have no idea what she is up to. I am the only one who calls her, and she rarely calls me. She knows that I like her. Sometimes, it looks like she establishes a line or some kind of barrier on me, so every time when I try to cross this line, she says no. But why she said yes every time when I ask her to study with me?

I feel like I am a complete loser. My friends told me to giver her some space during winter break, so I am not even calling her at all. I don’t want to make myself like a loser in front of her anymore. Back in high school, none of girls I dated rejected me, frustrated me, and made me sad this much. But strangely, I like her even more every time she rejects me. May be this is guys’ instinct of favoring girls who are hard to get.

Is this pretty much the game over? Shall I give up? I don’t want to end like this with her. She is way too special for me. We are going to take the same class for this upcoming term. After letting her to have some space during this winter break by not calling her at all, what should I do when I see her at class?

Answer 1

Don't contact her during break. At this point, you need to accept the fact that you were rejected and drop the issue. Be friends. (I have the impression that she likes you just as a friend and study partner, nothing more.) When you have class after break, give her a big smile and ask her how her break was. Talk to her like you're friends. Arrange a study group (invite other people if they're interested). Basically, show that you still like her as a friend and aren't at all upset by her rejection.

It doesn't mean that there's no hope for you ever, but you need to let her come to you. Show that there's no hard feelings. Be her friend. College is very stressful, and she's probably not ready for a boyfriend given all that. Right now, it doesn't look promising for a romantic relationship, but everybody could use a friend.

Answer 2

dude.... i got the same problem man.... although us guys do like the hard ones to get...

lol, i chose the one thats been going out with some guy not even from our school whos 4 years older than me and they have been going out for 3 whole years. although we are good friends, i had no idea until i asked if she wanted to get a bit to eat one time after she got off work, and thats when i knew...
i even got more into her, which was the wrong move.

just one little word of advice.

Don't under ANY circumstance should you come accross as DESPERATE!

good luck, my advice would be give her some room.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I know EXACTLY how you feel, im sorry i wish there was a right answer for you hon,but i was in the same place youre i havent gotten over him yet but he has gotten over me. I wanted him just him to want me i cried and cried yeah i was a mess im so so sorry i wish i could help you. Youre arent an idiot, Yeah those type of people are always gonna be better than us. GOOD LUCK
sorry i wasnt much help

Answer 5

She is not interested dude...she is abusing you ... she does not deserve a guy like you...keep your mind off her. Ignore her. If she really wants you, she would initiate the conversation. You sit tight and enjoy life...not worth wasting your timeas there are clear indications that she far from digging you...I sure do hope that she turns towards you as it appears your are in awe of her! But until then say tata

Answer 6

sorry boy she is obviously not in to you. I you really into some one you will spent time with them. Do yoy realy believe she is studing 16 hours a day? I hope you come to terms and see what going on.

Answer 7

From my experience just recently, if a girl is not straightforward with you and acts like what you described, then you should MOVE ON. Please don't stick around and get frustrated by her actions. You will only get hurt at the end. Take my advice and don't suffer like I did.

Answer 8

I don't think you should give him! your clearly mad about her if you can write all that about it! Just try to calm down and take it as it comes because no offence but you don't want to scare her off!! you'll know if its meant to be soon.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

OMG smart person drama!

Answer 10

Well if you love her then don't give up! Fight for what u want!: )