My MIL seems perfectly fine with everyone not being close. It has finally dawned on me that if her own son doesn't care - why should I? In my family, my mom is the glue that usually smooths everything out & keeps us all close. However, my MIL is the complete opposite. She doesn't seem to care if we all talk or not. Their family is very superficial & boring. Everything is on the surface. The siblings never call each other and treat each other worse than strangers. It is as if they are acquaintances that happen to be siblings. The mother always calls us & seems to thrive on my family as entertainment. Snidely saying things to me like Marie Barone does. She will call her son (my hub) often & he never calls her back. Finally when I had my kids, I stopped trying to push them together & fight to keep my own family close. Now because I no longer push for a relationship she believes that I am cold. She never says anything - god forbid she show an emotion. Am I ok for sitting back?
2007-12-21 08:02:23 · 5 answers · asked by Sherry26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, your right for sitting back. Her son wants nothing to do with her that is what she created so that is her issue not yours. You have no control over their relationship. Worry about your own family (husband and kids) your mother in law is a grown woman.
2007-12-21 08:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sit back and enjoy your own family. You are doing it right. Spend your time rearing your children properly.
You don't have to provide entertainment for the old harpie. If she calls asking for information, you can keep it general like you were talking to a casual acquiantance on the street... volunteer nothing personal.
There are a lot of families made up of cold fish like that... and you will be amazed at how they will behave when she gets too old to do stuff for herself.
2007-12-21 08:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are polite, there is no need for you to try to create a closer relationship. My mother was like this, so I know how uncomfortable it is. You can't win.
AHH, the snide comments... once I realized she was trying to provoke me into an arguement, I made it my mission to just act as if I didn't hear them. Eventually she stopped.
2007-12-21 08:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her and just enjoy your little family. She is the cold one. Who cares what she thinks.
2007-12-21 08:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...leave it alone.
Enjoy the holidays and snide remarks.
ENJOY yourself
2007-12-21 08:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by Southern Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋