I am estranged with everyone on my father's side (including him) except for his parents. My grandma died yesterday, and today the obituary ran in the paper, and instead of using Julianne Greyrose (my name was changed from his last name to my stepdads last name when I was 8 because my father was not in my life or paying child support) to Julianne Naughton (his last name). I called my deceptive aunt who I knew did they and ask for them to change it and it started a huge fight. She told me my mom and maternal grandma put me up to this as well as my stepdad, and they had nothing to do with it.
Not only is my dad's sister Sharee mad at me, so is he, and his girlfriend Heather. When I was on the phone with Heather asking her about it, my dad was in the background saying I was disrespectful just because I wanted my name to be Greyrose like it has been since I was eight.
Was I wrong to do this?
2007-12-21 07:57:49 · 5 answers · asked by Jake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everybody knew that my last name was changed. My grandparents approved it and love my stepdad!
2007-12-21 08:04:53 · update #1
Her friends will know she died, she had the same last name for 51 years, everyone know who Claire Naughton is.
2007-12-21 08:09:18 · update #2
no. unfortunately, weddings, holidays and funerals tend to bring out the worst in people. your father's (and nice you used that term instead of "dad") side are not interested in honoring your grandmother by using the name you wished used, but are inserting their own wishes into the funeral process. how unfair of them. and shame on them. you stick with the name you wish.
2007-12-21 08:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you'd be upset, but the people to call would have been the funeral home who had the obituary published. You can still do that. They'll print a correction in the paper and say your name is actualy Julianne Greyrose, but was accidentally misprinted as Julianne Naughton.
Don't be mad at the family. I don't think your grandma would want that.
2007-12-21 08:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What surname name did your grandmother actually use? That is the only one that matters in this case!
If they put the wrong one on the obit, it just means that her friends will not know that she passed and won't be able to go to the funeral.
What you can do, if you have the money, is run an obit with the correct name so her friends will know when the funeral is. You may also be able to contact her church and inform them.
Other than that, stay out of the affairs of that end of the family. No point in making life harder for yourself. You have to be selective about the fights you get into.
2007-12-21 08:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it be. This is such a minor issue when someone has died. I would imagine most of your grandmother's friends know you by your original last name.
There are so many other problems within families when someone dies, I wouldn't worry about this. Don't pursue it.
2007-12-21 08:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you weren't stick to your beliefs and hope one day your jerk off father will realize how f-up he was for not being around for most of your life.
2007-12-21 08:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by gasguy695 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋