so i put myself out there for a guy,i got like rejected, he didn't even give me an anwer when i confess.seem like he's just playing mind games with me....how do i get back my confidence..i still like him.i know its stupid..but i just can't help my feelings......i really want to get over him.....i can't seem to move on...
2007-12-21 07:57:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
abbey- your wrong..alot of things happen to me in the past which lead me to have alow self-esteem...and i dont blame him for not liking me..i just put my heart ou their,im not sure if you know how it feels....and dont judge someone when you dont even know them...
2007-12-21 08:58:17 · update #1
if i have a huge ego and pride why would put my heart out for guy..doens't make sense......dont act like you know me.....i hate judgemental people
2007-12-21 08:59:38 · update #2
ok girl,yeah its stupid that u still like him, but that does not mean that you are.....I mean like u can't just stop liking someone cuz he didn't answer or tell u anything when u confessed ur feelings...That guy needs to grow up and be a man and face reality. To tell you the truth I think u're just wasting ur time thinking about him. Life is full of acceptance and rejections. Its natural to be happy and feel good when accepted, just as it is to feel down and hurt when rejected.
So thats the first step to ur recovery.....u saw something u wanted, tried to get it.
You did not get what u anticipated...(u know i still can't believe that guy let u down, what a SOB(son of a b*tch)).
It will hurt ur feelings, but thats all it ahould hurt, not ur ego and not ur self esteem.....I'm sure U've noticed in life that one feeling does not last forever..I think u will get over it and move on to better things.
U're a Gem and well if the fool could not see that its his terrible most unfortunate lost of a lifetime.
Cry ur heart out cuz u want to if u have to....Then do something fun and exciting that u always loved doing.
Forget the as*hole....
2007-12-21 08:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by KurleySue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called self esteem. SELF esteem. Not "Some jerk who rejected me" esteem. Love you first, then when you get rejected it won't be a big deal, there are PLENTY of other fish in the sea. Don't even follow up guys who play games. It's childish. But to answer your question, give yourself a makeover, take some pretty pictures of yourself and pick out your best features. Read some inspirational stories or watch a romantic comedy. No one is perfect, but you will find the perfect guy for you one day!
2007-12-21 08:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we get what we want and sometimes we don't. Does it say anything about you that you got rejected? No. Does it say anything about him? Maybe he already has a girl and maybe he is too busy with his life right now to be "bothered" with having to watch his steps and keep in line for the duration of a relationship, regardless how short or long it might be.
Most likely he just isn't interested in you. Just think of the time you rejected someone and now think about how you were feeling after you did. Can you remember? He probably won't either and that's how much a cares.
Still into him? I didn't think so.
2007-12-21 08:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever rejected a guy who liked you since you started dating? How do you think guys feel when they are rejected by gals that they approach for a date.The point I am trying to make to you is that rejection comes with life including dating. I am sure you don't believe that every guy will like you and want to date you, or want you because you like them. While I can understand being upset because a guy you like does not like you, it does not yet rise to the point where you lose your self esteem or confidence; it just means that you find a guy who will like you and want to be with you. Although it is true we can not choose whom we love, we can decide if we want to be rejected. If you have lost your self esteem and confidence because of this guy as you claim, how can you then continue to also insist that you still like him and that he is playing mind games with you.I suspect you have a huge ego and pride and feel like you are so irresistible to guys that you can not accept him rejecting you. Just leave him alone, find another guy, and move on with your life.
2007-12-21 08:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be able to get over him you just have to give it some time. thas all it takes...try not think about him and if you see him somewhere dont even acknowledge him. hes not givin u any "play" so don give him any reason to think ure still interested. Guys like the "chase" of going after a girl....if you ignore him he'll come around if not..well dont worry about it there are plenty more guys in the world and im sure theres one lookin at you from afar thinking to himself about how he should approach you but is hesitant about it bcz ure still stuck on "so and so" whos not acting as of hes interested at all
2007-12-21 08:04:00 · answer #5 · answered by kzboo09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's obviously not worth your time. figure out why you even like him in the first place if you know he's such a jerk that he won't even acknowledge what you've just told him. guys that play mind games aren't worth your time. just tell yourself that you know that there are plenty of fish in the sea, and you don't need a man to be happy right now. if you are patient, the good ones will come along even if it isn't as quick as you like. just because you don't have a guy doesn't mean that you have a problem-- because more often than not guys CAUSE more problems than they solve!! patience is a virtue-- and if you wait the right guy will find you! no guy like what you described is even worth your time-- you just need to realize how much you are really worth!!
2007-12-21 08:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this so shallow, but wear your favorite black little dress and do your make-up for one night. Go out with your friends and watch how everyone looks and stares at you. I know that it sounds shallow, but I can assure you that youll get your self esteem back, oh and about that guy, dont worry, the time will come when he gets his heart broken and he'll remember how you felt.
2007-12-21 08:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Is that your final answer? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have your confidence. You are confuseing feeling dissapointment with rejection. Don't think that this bad fellin ghas anything to do with your worth. You feel low but you know you are cool otherwise you would have never offered him a chance to know you. Feel dissapointed, but know that someone will be interested, because you are cool.
2007-12-21 08:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by C W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I talked to my guy friend about this kind of situation. The guy isn't taking it as personally as you, probably. My guy friend said that guys figure it's all in the numbers and they ask people until someone says yes. Of course, this is the opinion of ONE guy-but he never has problems getting good women. So, chalk it up to experience. Be PROUD of yourself that you tried. Now you know he isn't the right one. One down, several million to go.....YOU GO GIRL.
2007-12-21 08:00:00 · answer #9 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you let him know that your interested the more he will probably shy away. Try not acting as though you like him, and see what happens. Never let em see you sweat. Feelings are what we ourselves choose to feel. If you want to get over him, then just do it. move on. let it go.
2007-12-21 08:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋