Supposedly my boyfriend said that he hasn't cried in 3 years after his grandmother died, and he says that he wasn't even crying because she was dead, but was crying for everyone else who was crying at the funeral. Though the last time I cried was this morning aha. What makes it so hard for guys to show their emotions?
2007-12-21 07:24:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-12-21 07:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I have 5 brothers, I watch them very closely, and I pick up on a lot of their behavior. I think there are a ton of different factors, but I think the biggest has to definitely be peer pressure. Guys really do want to show their emotions, because my brother, who'll be 16 in a couple of weeks, tells me all the time how special his girlfriend is to him, and how he thinks he may love her, but yet, he's never told her that. Of course, I'm very close to my brother, but still. My brother, Aden, is I guess one of the 'cool kids', idk. His friends treat girls like objects, now my brother doesn't but, he doesn't go out of his way to make her feel special either, even though he feels differently. He wants to fit in with his football tough guy friends. On the other hand, my brother who's almost 14, Ryan, treats his girlfriend very differently. He's not afraid to compliment her, or tell her she's special every once in a while. It kind of depends on the guy, and the situation, and their own individual communication skills. This is just what I've picked up, I'm no expert or anything. ♥
2016-05-25 08:10:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I don't cry as often as I feel I should when someone dies, but I do let myself go whenever I feel the need. It just sucks, because men are to be strong leaders who have everything under control, and when let emotion show some of them feel like they are letting it get out of control. I'm not afraid to show emotion, because it hurts really bad to hold it in, like trying to hold in a sneeze only much, much worse. Crying is healthy for you too, just like laughing, though hopefully you do a lot more laughing than crying. Kinda funny huh, how crying is viewed as a shameful lack of control for some men when uncontrollable laughter is not...or is it?
2007-12-21 07:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cried about 1 to 3 months ago. i dont cry much. girls are jsut easier to cry. I know I went on a humnatiran trip. there were 28 girls and 2 guys. on the last day about 20 of the girls cried while me and the other guy just stood there.
2007-12-21 07:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever met someone who says, "I'm going to raise my son to show his emotions and cry!"? No. Men are raised to keep their emotions inside and not display them externally. What would you think if you saw a guy start to cry because his hair didn't lay right? They'd get a bad rep for sure.
Be thankful that he can be strong for you and know that he can cry if he has to.
2007-12-21 07:27:54 · answer #5 · answered by xK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's the way Nature designed them...men are designed to be tougher, less emotional, and more logical. Women are designed to be more emotional and nurturing. There's nothing wrong with either, and some women aren't real emotional and some guys are...
Some guys are raised it's unkewl to show their emotions so even if they want to, they fear being ridiculed...some just aren't the cryin' type regardless.
2007-12-21 07:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a lot of guys are told as little boys that its wrong for men to show emotions..that tough little boys don't cry and not to be a sissy
but not all men are that way my husband is a sensitive man who is in touch with his emotions and not afraid to cry
2007-12-21 07:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by little78lucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they dont want there girlfriend/friends to think that they are babies.
when it really narrows down to it,guys are bigger babies than girls.
they dont want to let thier girl or friends to see them cry because they think they are all big and bad.
but they really arent.
guys will be guys.
and my boyfriend has cried like only 2 times and he said the last time before that was like three years also.its just how guys are!!
hope i helped!!
madison
2007-12-21 07:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
uhm i dont kno...i also didnt cry when my best friend past away...i was sad but cudnt cry...but sometimes we do cry it just has to be somethng i guess that HURTS so bad...and the pain is too much..to hold it in...IDK thast a good Q?
2007-12-21 07:28:35 · answer #9 · answered by emar2614 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society, guys r made out to be strong and unbreakable. if we show our emotions then suddenly we get all these labels like gay or girly etc.
2007-12-21 07:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they want to feel all macho and stuff lmao.
I don't know, they probably don't want girls to think they get sad and stuff.
i wish all guys were like ryan shecklerlol. have you watched life of ryan?
he always shows his emotions..he even cried in one episode lol.
2007-12-21 07:27:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋