I heard that the Bible states that what happens in a married couples bed is not a sin, is that true?

Question

Does anyone know a verse that would reference this?

Answer 1

Hebrews 13:4a "Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled."

This is Paul's response to the prohibition contained within Leviticus 15:16-18, where any emission of semen for any reason defiled the man.

We are not subject to the Mosaic Law; we are subject to the Law of Messiah. No consensual act performed by a married couple is disallowed.

EDIT: To the many Christians who replied that oral and anal sex is not permitted, please provide a NEW TESTAMENT reference, please. (Hint: there are none that pertain to married couples. If you think there are, you're taking the verse out of context.)

Answer 2

The Bible is silent on what happens between a man and wife concerning sex, accept in that neither the man nor the woman should deny each other unless there is a good reason. It also says the man should love his wife and Christ loves the church and the woman should submit to her husband as she does to her Lord. This does not mean a man can abuse his wife, because Christ never abused the church. Christ loved the Church and so must the husband love his wife. It does say sex should be confined to marriage. What happens once you are married, the Bible is silent on. Some people just do not prefer oral sex but the Bible does not mention this subject. I myself believe that if you are married, then what you and your spouse does it up to you and your spouse. So long as you do not abuse each other then what you do is up to you. So if oral sex is your thing, then I think it is fine. If both of you are uncomfortable then that is also fine. If one of you wants it and the other doesn't, then that could become a problem. If both people are christians then pray about it, and maybe seek christian counsel. However, I would be careful about the christian counsel you seek. Make sure the counselor is trustworthy and does not have a bias that might affect the counseling. Such as a counselor who thinks oral sex is wrong...well then the counseling would be pointless.

Answer 3

You've obviously seen the Hebrew's passage by now, but let's look at this question in the way in which I believe it is being stated.

The Bible talks a lot about sexual immorality, it strays from giving guidelines to guide a sexual relationship. This can lead to interpretation from the reader, and rightly so. But sexual immorality has a wide spectrum depending on who you are.

How does God view sex? Purely for procreation? If so, than anything other than intercourse between a man and a woman is to be considered sexually immoral. However, if sex is a gift from God to a wife and husband to be enjoyed as a symbol of their bond with one another, then sexual immorality is less of an issue.

Two consenting adults within the bonds of marriage (which is another issue altogether, deciding whether marriage is necessary for sex), if they believe sex is to be enjoyed, can decide, in my opinion and I believe in the Bible's interpretation (Hebrews), how to use it. This widens the spectrum from regular intercourse to many activities that bring the couple closer together. If it feels like sinning ... then it probably is. A rule of thumb to go by is that if it seems unnatural and has a tinge of regret left behind after it is done, it might not be a good idea to bring it back into the bedroom.

I would say pray about it and if it is still an issue, ask a learned Priest or Pastor.

Answer 4

Yes.
By biblical standards,if a married couple divorces and either or both has sex with another partner - they are committing adultery and that is a sin (remarried or not).
I haven't seen anything about if the original partners remarry.
If your marriage was a religious ceremony,the God only recognizes the first marriage.
However,some churches have been rewriting the bible to accommodate same sex relationships and that is also a sin.

To find reference to marriage in the bible,look in the back of your bible-some have a reference guide by subject-there is even 1 for divorce.

Answer 5

The Bible does not specifically address what goes on with a consenting married couple. Not one word on the matter. Well, that's not exactly right, in Leviticus it implies that you shouldn't have sex during the woman's period or else you have to go through the "sacrifice two turtledoves" routine. And Paul reminds us that we should never withhold ourselves from the other partner. There's nothing else in there because the marriage bed is not a "sinful" place.

And the Bible doesn't say ANYTHING about oral or anal sex, that's just fundamentalists looking under every rock for their definition of pornography. The Bible forbids homosexual sex (between men, NOT between women), and "fornication" (sex with a temple prostitute, NOT just any little thing you want to lump in there that you don't like), and adultery (sex with someone who is married to someone else, NOT unmarried sex).

Answer 6

I Corinthians 6:12 through 7:40 talks about sex (and immorality) and marriage - read through this to get a better understanding.

I was raised that my body was the Temple of the Lord and not to desecrate it (it houses the Holy Spirit given by God as in I Corinthians 6:19).

Answer 7

Yes, the Bible says that the marriage bed is undefiled. Not sure what the verse is off the top of my head.

However, this doesn't include acting out fantasies or perversions because these involve lust, which is sinful.

Answer 8

i don't know the bible like the back of my hand but check your index for different topics to look up. that will give you what book to read. Also the bible don't say anything about what you and your partner do in bed. sex is made for married people. what you do is your business. long as you make God happy and be married before sex you will be ok. even though folks don't do it like that these days. but check that out.

Answer 9

I don't think it's a sin to have oral sex or anyting like that, as long as both are ok w/ it....anal is out of the question though, that's just gross.

But really, I think sex is only a sin when the two people having sex are not married...other than that, those two people can have fun...

Answer 10

In 1 Corinthians 7:1-7 it is saying that husbands and wives shouldn't deprive each other of sex. The things that happen in a marriage bed are not a sin if it is between the husband and wife only and it disobeys no other law of god. For example if you bring a dog into the marriage bed for sex, that goes against god's law against bestiality and therefore is a sin.