A co-worker and I are not in the friendliest of terms. Ours is a relationship that smiles and blinks with wide-interest, yet growls when our backs are turned. With this in mind:
I asked a question re mail procedure. I took out a handbook and she pointed to the correct answer with her middle finger. I commented on how she's flipping me off, and she responds, "This is the international sign of friendship."
I ask you, how often do you "point" with your middle finger?
2007-12-21 06:59:03 · 12 answers · asked by BABY 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You're dealing with an ignorant self-centered fool. The best thing to do is ignore her, and maybe try to get a new job, and get away from her.
Good luck.....
2007-12-21 08:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for the good of the company and your job, this is a situation that needs to be mediated. I had this occur once and with no witness it turned ugly. Poeple are jealous at work and try to dig to get what they want, whatever that may be.
You should tell your superviser you need a mediated meeting to confront these issues. The other person needs to know how the work place feels with them in it. This will speed things along and allow your boss to know how this person operates, you will be the better person to address and take care of these important issues that could potentially sink the ship.
good luck and remain calm.
2007-12-21 07:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Paulie P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ask someone you can't get along with about policy? Did you not have your own handbook or someone else to ask?
It sounds like she is the kind of person who thrives on starting crap and keeping it stirred up. I'd stay far away from her in the future.
2007-12-21 07:12:13 · answer #3 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this case it seems like she was doing it on purpose but I do know people who use their middle finger to sort papers. I use my middle finger to push up my glasses, especially while driving. That way, no one can say I flipped them off. I was just pushing up my glasses.
Next time use your little finger - it means that you don't care to give the very best.
2007-12-21 07:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by lilith663 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just respond with a "thank you very much" and smile with sincerity. this especially defuses their contempt...that you could care less...if there was even any contempt in the first place.
you're reading too much into the middle-finger pointer. you really have better things to do with your life than try to figure the deep meaning of the middle-finger pointer.
2007-12-21 07:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by [RAGE]Riddick51PB 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try just being pleasant and ignoring her sarcasm completely. Don't say anything about her behind her back.Keep everything totally professional. Gripe about her when you get home if you have to! By doing this, she has no ammunition to work with. You'll establish yourself as being the professional and you will feel better. You've heard of "Kill them with Kindness"....It works, good luck.
2007-12-21 07:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by sandy t 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She gave you the correct answer at least. She just needs to grow up. She's acting like a snorty little brat... just ignore her and only communicate when necessary.
2007-12-21 07:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never have pointed with my middle finger.
She at least gave you the correct answer.
I think she needs to grow up. Why would you smile at her at all?
2007-12-21 07:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by Blessed 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well...my parents point with their middle fingers, I've tried to get them to stop. but from her comment, I think she was just being snide.
2007-12-21 07:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by Person 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You already know this woman doesn't like you, you guys are catty with each other all the time, why bother wasting braincells on anything she says or does?
2007-12-21 07:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋