"Hi, I was just admiring / appreciating you from afar, and I was wondering if I could leave my card with you and if you'd be available to get together over the next week." ---- Ladies is this a strong enough approach? Is it good or corny and should I try to get their number at the end? I think I look decent (tall with dark hair, age 35 and probably a 7 out of 10 at least). Does it help that they see I'm a lawyer when I hand them my card? What approach do you like? Thank you ladies in advance for the advice and happy holidays!
2007-12-21 06:43:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah... if a guy approached me that way I would think he was a idiot. After looking at the card and realizing he's a lawyer, I would see immediately through the scheme. Unimpressed, I would toss the card.
Anyway, why do you want to date someone who only likes you for your job and money?
A better approach would be "Hello, I'm Mike. What's your name? I noticed you from across the room and thought you were pretty, would you like to get some coffee?" And try to get her number, I never call guys, I expect them to call me.
2007-12-21 06:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, it depends. The fact that you're a lawyer helps, but you gotta get your game on.
The strategy is to get her to talk to you first. You'll start a conversation, but she has to want to talk to you first. You can't want to talk to her first and display it or you lose.
Find a situation where you get to mentioning a movie and then she'll want to share about it. You gotta have threads of stories (I'd say at least 5) that don't lead to an ending and you have to hop between them constantly. Keep them talking.
Here's the fabric of the dating/space/time continuum. You must first approach, which you did. Next you must "attract" which you did by getting her to want to talk to you. Lastly, you have to "qualify" direct the conversation so that she has to prove to you why you should continue to accompany her.
Throughout this time, you have to laugh and touch her. Casual touching, so make her get used to you being a touchy-feely guy. You figure, if she's uncomfortable touching your hand, why the hell would she kiss you?
So the approach with the card that says you're a lawyer displays some of your value, but the whole bit with I was admiring you from afar needs to get shredded from your mind. If you get a phone call from that what do you think is going on in her mind?
All she knows about you is that you're a lawyer from a card. She knows you're weak because all you can do is admire her from afar. You never talked to her so she has no idea at all what kind of person you are, only that you're weak and rich -- in short JACKPOT!
Unless you look like James Bond or look like him, don't even go for that move. And by the way, make her buy you a drink.
2007-12-21 07:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by Huge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just walk up too her and hold a conversation that you would think would make her smile and then ask her for her number... I like for a man to not be too strong and not use a line because you can tell when it's a line and get her number because it makes the woman feel special when she can pick up the phone and know that you called... it shows that you like her.
2007-12-21 06:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Toogood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Hi, I was just admiring / appreciating you from afar, and I was wondering if I could leave my card with you and if you'd be available to get together over the next week."
Cut it down to this:
Hi, I was wondering if you'd be available for dinner one night next week?"
2007-12-21 06:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Misery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a nice approach and if she is available she would call
2007-12-21 06:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by PrincessChaos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adult men like compliments basically like women do, so which you would be able to tell him that he has tremendously eyes, and advise it, or that he has extreme high quality hair, some thing which you may prefer stated to you! have self belief me each little thing will artwork out the form you prefer it to.
2016-10-09 01:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by abe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really corny. Good for a few laughs with my friends.
2007-12-21 06:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Tessie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st I think thats just lame for him to approach to a lady like that.
If his really interested he would of asked for you to sit down with him have a little chat and then give you his card.
But to me I usually dont take cards,I dont like to make the calling,I like them to make the calling.
2007-12-21 06:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your approach is sincere I think any approach would work. Just don't over do it.
2007-12-21 06:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh he sounds gay...
is he like an artist...
he sounds rly rly rly nerdy adn desperate unless hes hott dnt call em...
or u could b nice and just give him a chance.... just get to no him b4 u just go out together.
2007-12-21 06:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋