Okay, we've been together a yr and a half tommorow. Its not like a treat her badly or anything,..I treat her like a goddess. I get her everything I can get and give her everything i have. I love her to death and always am there for her... We havn';t had sex(15) and her dad knows that....however....he still hates me.... I think its my neighborhood but I dont live in a bad neighborhood. Just not as nice.as hers....
How do I get the dad to like me?
2007-12-21 06:31:49 · 11 answers · asked by RCPD Expl. Captain Beckner 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You cant make him like you.just be who you are and eventually he will see that your not there to hurt his daughter.
Thats all that concerns him.
2007-12-21 06:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty he probably won't like you anytime soon. This has everything to do with her age I think. He is just being a good Dad and being protective over her. I will tell you that it didn't matter who I dated as a teenager, my Dad never liked them. He always felt that I was too young to date. Where as my Mom would argue it's part of being a teenager. So they allowed me to date but was very cautious. When I met my husband, my father really disliked him. He would always tell me I deserved better. But he said this with every guy. My husband never pushed himself on my father. He was always very respectful of my father, yes sir and no sir. I'd say that it took about two years before my dad accepted him. My husband earned my fathers respect. My father actually told my husband this. Even my mother was a bit surprised.
So really if I were you I wouldn't get upset or have any hurt feelings. Because I don't think her dad will accept any guy for her right now. It's nothing personal. Just always be very respectful of the family and your girlfriend. Show him that you are a respectable, responsible young man. This is what truly matters. I hope this helps! I wish you the best of luck! Merry Christmas & God Bless!
2007-12-21 08:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by zerotimeforfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a problem with this a while back. Chelsea. Her father absolutely hated her boyfriend, Zack. As a result, me and a couple of friends spoke to Zack and told him he should stand up for himself. Chelsea is worth more to him than face. A couple of days later I got an e-mail from him telling me exactly what he said:
"Listen. I know you don't like me. You seem to have no trouble showing it. The thing is, I don't care. It's your daughter that I love. I know you love her too, in a way that I will never be able to, and I know that you want the best for her. I have respect for the way you treat her. She's the best thing that ever happened to me, my life is so much better because of her, and I have you to thank for that. But I am not going to let anything get in the way of my love. Not even you."
This should build his respect for you, depending on the type of guy he is.
2007-12-21 07:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. No PDA (public displays of affection) in his or any family member's presence.
2. Be confident (but not cocky). Look him in the eye when you speak to him and call him by name (Mr. [Last Name], if you're not on a first-name basis). Speak clearly.
3. Always be polite and respectful toward her parents (and all people, really).
4. Always be polite and respectful toward their daughter.
5. Follow rules 1-4 even if they don't seem to be working. If her dad still has a problem with you, then it's his problem and you can stop worrying about it (while still following the rules because you're just that kind of guy -- i.e. a good one).
2007-12-21 06:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by jont80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time at her house when he is home and start conversations with him. Find out from her beforehand what his interests are, maybe you have some in common and you can talk about them. The more he knows you the more he will give you the benefit of the doubt.
Keep in mind that is his little girl and he has loved her far longer then you and it is his life to protect her. So show him what kind of guy you are, be honest and yourself, polite, respectful and interested and maybe he will change his mind about you.
2007-12-21 08:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will not like you for a long time. Right now, you are some little rat trying to get into his daughter's pants, and believe me, he does NOT want a pregnant teenager around the house.
He will have to like you after you have married his daughter.
2007-12-21 07:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try talking to him more. NOt fake, but more conversation. Show him you're not afraid of him. If you showed any signs of being intimidated he probably saw it and thought, "what a sissy!" So, just show him that you can hold your own. And try not to have sex with the girl for awhile longer...cause that will definately mess things up for you!
2007-12-21 06:36:56 · answer #7 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he think you're a bad influence on her. There is a difference between that and not likng you, but it wont work good if he doesn't like u.
2007-12-21 06:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Regina Thunderpants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep being nice, and make a pact with him that you won't have sex with his daughter until you are married to her. And stick to it. Good for you!
2007-12-21 07:56:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why he does not like you
and then take it from there.
2007-12-21 07:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by candle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋