He talks to me on AIM all the time about being gay and how much he wants to tell another marine about it, but is scared to do so. His AOL AIM is: OneNutOneder1 and he needs some support. Please post here or IM to tell him some advice.
2007-12-21 06:20:56 · 22 answers · asked by chessmastor 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Well, John went to 3rd base with his roommate I guess, because they ban all porn and haven't had access to a woman for nearly 11 months.
He thinks his roommate is gay, but not sure, how can he tell? How can John come out to him?
2007-12-21 06:27:06 · update #1
Put hand on knob,
No!! the other knob and open the door and shout
Surprize Surprize
2007-12-21 06:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by conranger1 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's not something I would share with them. Knowing marines and other military folks (family & friends), they have a very close relationship which is based on complete trust that the other guy (or gal) has your back. Just from the conversations I've had over the years with people in the military, they don't want to know.
What is your friend's motivation for wanting to share this? What is it he is hoping to gain? There has to be something he's hoping to achieve by disclosing what really has NOTHING to do with the job he's been assigned to. And, why is it bothering him that the others DON'T know? He's better off sharing this with family or friends, such as yourself. I've heard too many terrible stories about gay men being beaten. I'd hate for him to endure that kind of backlash.
Just my opinion......
2007-12-21 06:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by papergirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that even though don't ask don't tell exists, if he has someone who he knows really well and who is his best friend and wouldn't tell people who would be insensitive, then go for it. It's too hard to live a lie like that. When I was in high school I had a good friend who for a year I was the only person who knew he was gay. I think my friend would have come undone had he not had at least one person who knew but even then he was frustrated (but felt safer and like he wouldn't cause waves. We were at a pretty small, conservative school) with being in the closet. If he feels comfortable sharing that info with someone close and they will be accepting, then tell him to go for it.
2007-12-21 06:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by N.S.K. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't matter if he 'outs' himself, it is unlikely that he will be discharged at this point.
60 minutes did a piece last week showing that the number of people discharged from the military for being openly gay has decreased by half since the start of the Iraq war. Recruitment is down, so commanders are not going to shoot themselves in the foot by discharging needed bodies.
The one soldier profiled in the 60 minutes story even showed pictures of himself making out with his boyfriend and his commander told him that he wasn't gay and to go back to work in his unit.
2007-12-21 06:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy, don't tell him to come out while in the Marines especially in Iraq. Not very smart. Wait until his enlistment is over to come out and tell every one.
And more than likely if he were to tell his Officer in Charge they won't discharge him because he is a needed resource in Iraq.
2007-12-21 06:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by lremmell64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing he should have done was not join that particular branch. I'm all about live and let live, but seriously, why would he ever put himself in that position?
to answer the question: if he is serious about coming out he should go talk to the chaplain and get assurances he will not go back to his unit.
2007-12-21 06:32:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agree with USMC O-2. We live in the "real world."
I would advise proceeding with caution because you cannot "unring a bell".
And is the "O-2" part of your unit? Just curious.
2007-12-21 08:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Micheala #1 Fan of WDPLM-2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one but he will be Dishonarably discharged. DONT ASK DONT TELL its there for a reason. Many marines will be un easy around him and that is not good combat.
2007-12-21 06:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First Off, What the he*l are you doing posting somebody else info in a public forum? Escpecially when it can be embarassing to attatch certain knowledge, or other personnel information to it?
Second, If he wants to stay in the military tll him to stay in the closet. If he comes out who knows what will happen? It could be nothing, to harassment to discharge. If he feels that strongly, he should inform his COC.
2007-12-21 06:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Think for yourself 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
make a firm decision to back out unless marines accept gays LOL ..Well if I were in his situation I would rather choose to follow my feelings and to enjoy who I am. Follow your heart and enjoy your freedom.
2007-12-21 06:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Arcie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would strongly advise him to stay in the closet until he is a civilian. What will happen when he does come out will not be pleasant for him legally or socially.
2007-12-21 06:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by jrhd97 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋