How does a guy feel if you are in a long distance relationship and?

Question

you show fear that he may meet someone else? Is that a compliment to him or does it make him actually desire to meet someone else? I don't want to send the wrong messages.

Answer 1

If you mention it occasionally, it won't have much effect one way or another. If you become paranoid about it and seem to be obsessive, it's a turn off and he may decide to dump you. If he's an unfaithful type, he will be on the prowl anyway. If he's not like that, he will be faithful regardless of anything like that.

Answer 2

It depends on the guy. To me it would be a compliment, because it would show that you really care. But, for other guys it might be a bit suffocating. Regardless, your dilemma illustrates the biggest problem with long distance relationships. Back when I was young and single, I was in a long distance relationship. I loved the girl, but was in total agony, and lived in fear that she might meet someone else. I know what you're feeling cause I've been there myself.

Answer 3

If he is going through the trouble of actually having a relationship with you while being so far away he's probably not trying to meet someone else. I dated a guy who lived in florida while I lived in ohio for 4 years and it went great however it just got too much us not being able to be together for long periods of time and we kind of just grew apart my advice is to take advantage of the time that you do have together even if it's just over the phone also have a plan set up that if it ever get's too much for either one of you that you will call it quits so that notion to cheat doesn't even occur Also know that you also have to have your own lives that's where my guy and I messed up we both would always stay home and stay on the phone all day instead of going out and hanging out with our friends... The main thing is that you really need to have trust. good luck i wish you the best

Answer 4

It shows that you don't trust him and/or that you are insecure. Both of you need to just worry about each other, because if the relationship becomes stressful or unpleasant, it is much harder to turn it around when you are far apart. Don't make it an issue unless this actually happens. LDRs are tough, but it can be done.

Check this out: my friend was in a LDR with a guy on the other side of the country for a couple of years (they hardly ever saw each other) and they ended up getting married and are extremely happy! People in the military do this too, so it can be done!

Best of luck!

Answer 5

Long Distance, ohhhhhhh.............
Ive been in my long distance for almost three years now. ITS BEEN ROCKY!!!!
You showing fear that he will meet someone else will give him that option since you are well aware of it.
I say- show complete confidence in yourself. Let him decide if this long distance is for him. Make him aware that you know that there are other options, and if he decides to explore his options that he should have the courtesy and consideration for you to tell you. If this is something serious, then you both need to make the decision of committing to each other. It really takes two strong individuals to make it happen; mentally and emotionally.
Good Luck....
p.s.- My guy is finally moving here with me after almost three years. Im in California and hes in New york. BUt boy oh boy was it a struggle mentally, emotionally, and financially (sexually too- guys are guys, n girls have that same need) Its definitely hard but not impossible. Just takes two and TRUST

Answer 6

Depends on the guy. Being insecure isn't a real turn on for most guys. You need to feel confident that your guy isn't messing around on you or meeting other people on the side. It's a natural fear, but may also be a sign that this guy isn't the one, because if you truly love someone, you trust them completely to do the right thing.

Answer 7

He doesnt desire to meet someone else, if he did he wouldnt be with you, I think anytime you express fear that someone could steal your significant other away is always a compliment. As long as you say it once, if you are calling constantly and being suspicious all the time, it will turn him off. You have to trust him not to do anything that would hurt you and your relationship! If you have trust you have nothing to worry about! Good luck!

Answer 8

If you have this fear, then it reflects an insecurity concerning your relationship. He's not going to take it as a compliment, for certain. However, he'll either run or he'll try and reassure you.

Your concern, however, is legit - attraction to someone that he can see is going to be stronger than for someone that lives a distance away.

Answer 9

why are you in a long distance relationship anyway..they're way too hard..me and my bf have been together for about a year now and he's going away to college in about a year.. i love him with all of my heart but we gotta be realistic here..long distance relationships are waaay to hard..and as much as i wanna stay with my bf when he leaves..i want to give him that opp to go out and have fun and not worry about having a gf back home..and that way we'll know if what we have is real..i mean yea its easier said than done but honestly i dont think a long distance relationship is worth the pain and heart ache..and if you end it with him or decide to have an open relationship..you'll be protecting yourself from getting hurt..but to answer your question..i think you should talk to him about whats going on..its obviously bothering you a lot and if he is your bf you should be able to talk to him about anything..good luck..do what you feel is right!

Answer 10

Well! because your probably right,and you should not take this relationship too seriously,because men have needs and men are weak when it comes to dedication to love.